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How to Find a Wife This Year – Even When You Don’t Think You Can

How to Find a Wife This Year – Even When You Don’t Think You Can

On December 31st, as you were clinking glasses of champagne with friends and making love your 2020 resolution, China was announcing that a “pneumonia” cluster had formed in Wuhan.

Weeks later and we learned that it wasn’t pneumonia that these people had contracted, but a novel coronavirus that would eventually dump gasoline on any 2020 plans you had in the making.

So much for finding a wife in 2020 you thought.



Despite COVID-19 cockblocking just about every dude on earth, there are still ways to find love in 2020.

Granted, finding a wife during non-COVID times can be a daunting task, you don’t have to delay the search just because of COVID, rather, you need to adapt.

In this article, we’ll teach you how to find a wife this year, even when you don’t think you can.

Perhaps the conventional ways of meeting women have gone the way of the handshake, but no worries. We’ll teach you how to woo and wife-up a woman of merit in this most unromantic of years.

How to Find a Wife This Year

Hire The Right Matchmaker

You have two options.

You can either wander the murky road of romance alone, or you can enlist a professional to help guide the way.

When you team up with a matchmaker, you eliminate the guesswork.

Hiring a matchmaker to help you find a wife is the fastest path to success because they do the work for you. No longer will you be able to make excuses for why you haven’t messaged anyone on the apps, taken better photos, or updated your profiles. Hiring a matchmaker allows you to sit back and relax while someone else goes to work finding you the woman of your dreams. All you have to do is show up for the date. But it’s important to hire the right matchmaker.

At emlovz, our matchmaking team recruits women based on your preferences.

We don’t rely on a limited database of women, rather, we go into the real world and hunt.

First, you meet with me (or one of my coaches) and tell me exactly what you’re looking for.

Then I’ll share your preferences with the rest of my team. Together, we will scour the internet far and wide to find you 15 of the most ideal women who fit your specifications. We’ll likely source over 1000 new women for you, qualify 125 of them, and interview the top 40. Yeah — we’re full service. 



All you have to do is show up for the date and see if you feel the chemistry.

Best of all, with our matchmaking program, you also get coaching on how to crush the dates themselves so you don’t blow it with Mrs. Right! 

When hiring a matchmaker, you want to avoid those who don’t guarantee a specific number of dates in a specific timeline.

You also want to be wary of matchmakers who only rely on their own limited databases. Chances are they’re only able to match you with women they already know or who are paying for their service, rather than go out and finding the perfect match for you.

I’ve heard countless times how a man hired a matchmaker, told them what he wanted, and then ended up going on dates with women who were nothing like he’d described. Ensure you’re able to match with women that are right for you by using matchmakers who offer headhunting/recruiting strategies rather than pre-existing databases.

Put Yourself Out There (Online & In-Person)

If you’re wondering how to find a wife this year, you better be putting yourself out there.

Putting yourself out there means something different nowadays. 

It doesn’t mean hitting up as many bars as you can on a Friday night. That’s not even possible in most places.

Put yourself out there in a safe and effective way.

In my coaching program, I recommend that my clients put themselves on 5 different dating apps to diversify their outreach and expand their dating pool.

A beautiful woman isn’t going to show up at your door and ask to be your girlfriend. You’ve got to take the first step and put yourself out there.

But it’s important that you know what you’re doing when you do. Setting up a dating profile without a strategy and messaging “hey, how’s your day going” isn’t going to give you a good return on your time investment.



That’s where a dating coach can help.

In my coaching program, I teach clients exactly how to craft the perfect online dating profile and how to message women so they read, respond, and say yes to your date invitation. I even give my clients a plug-and-play dating profile template that they can use — which is specific to them, not just a copy/paste profile — that’s guaranteed to improve the compatibility of the women they match with.

Not only that, I teach them what photos they need on their profile to be competitive and how to test them to ensure that they’re in the top 20% of all dating profiles. When it comes to in-person social strategy and events, it’s important to know where to go to meet the women you’re most interested in and what to say to them when you do. We cover all that and more in my 3 month coaching program.

I also recommend that clients attend at least one event each week, even if it’s just a virtual event. Even though it might not seem like it, there are still plenty of in-person events going on. Just take a look at Meetup to find social events near you that tickle your fancy. You can still meet new people in person — it just might take a while to figure out what they’re face looks like under that mask. 

At the end of the day, you’ve got to put yourself out there if you want to meet the woman of your dreams, or any women at all. And you can find success faster and more easily by working with an expert.

Ask Your Friends

Before most new relationships began online, we looked to friends to set us up.

Going through friends to find compatible females is a killer idea. So dope, Hinge actually initially used the strategy to inform how their dating app worked.

Our friends know us better than anyone else and have a host of friends that no doubt are compatible with you. But just because friends make the ideal wingman and woman, doesn’t mean they’ll be up for it.

It can be awkward admitting to a friend that you’re unhappy in your romantic life.

But, enlisting the help of your friends is not only powerful and effective, but it also ensures that you meet people who are hyper-compatible with you. It also helps a woman to feel more at ease knowing that you’re not some rando from the internet.

There’s a certain amount of trust and rapport that happens naturally when you meet through friends. Even if you’re afraid to ask your friends for help directly, you can start inviting your friends over more and encouraging them to bring friends with them by planning fun social activities, like a day in the park, a BBQ, a happy hour, etc.



Prioritize Love

Too many people prioritize work over love and it’s a shame.

At some point in their life, every successful, single person has that thought, “is this even worth it without having anyone to share it with?”

It’s easy to think that we have to achieve a certain amount of success before we deserve to have the love of our lives, but that just isn’t true. In my work, I find men tend to have this belief a lot more than women. But if you keep putting work and other things ahead of love, you won’t develop the skills you need to actually find, attract, and keep it when you do want it.

Consider what you’re working for. Consider what you’re prioritizing other things for. Are those things going to bring you joy and happiness? Are you trying to measure up to someone else’s opinion of “good enough?”

We are always “good enough” to have the love that we dream of but often we don’t believe it deep down. This doubt leads us to prioritize other things instead of love.

It’s also common that we overcompensate in areas we feel are easier to understand and predict or in things we’ve had guidance and education on in the past.

There’s no college for dating, it’s not taught in schools. And so, often, we find that if we don’t have a natural inclination towards it, that we don’t know what we’re doing and avoid it.

But dating can be learned.

In fact, my favorite thing in the world is to teach dating to people who are eager to have success in all areas of their lives, not just professionally. And when you really make the choice to prioritize love, to do whatever it takes to find it, attract it, and keep it, that’s when you get to have it. But it’s got to be at the top of your list.

Get Clear On The Ways In Which You Self-Sabotage

In a similar vein, it’s important to realize all the ways we sabotage our own success.

Fear is the mind-killer.

The old Bene Gesserit saying applies even outside the world of Dune.



Fear of success can manifest itself in avoidance, inaction, or overcompensation.

Whenever I begin working with a new client, I have them create a video speaking to their inner saboteur.

In it, they answer the following questions:

How might you self-sabotage this?

Can we create a container so you don’t self-sabotage?

How do you want me to be with you when you start to self-sabotage?

Where else have you been self-sabotaging yourself (career, friends, family, exercise, nutrition, continuing education, etc.)?

The expectation is to become very aware of this pattern so you don’t self-sabotage.

You’ve got to focus all of your intention on this one thing so you recognize it when it comes up and you have a strategy to face it, rather than to run away.

It’s especially important for those who avoid facing the issue because we can ignore it forever, pretending like it doesn’t exist, and then never reach our romantic goals. That is a tragedy and it doesn’t have to be the outcome. Consider answering these questions for yourself and finding a coach or accountability buddy who can hold you accountable to your goals and call you out when they notice you self-sabotaging.

We often self-sabotage because we’re afraid of failure, or afraid of success.

Examples of self-sabotage include: not putting up a dating profile on any of the apps, putting up a profile but then never messaging anyone, sending likes but nothing else, waiting for women to message you first (hint: the good ones never do), not getting professional photos taken even when you know your photos suck and that’s why you’re not getting the quality of matches you want, not planning your dates out, not making an effort to pitch your dates so they sound compelling, instead saying something that sounds very not-compelling like “we should hang out sometime,” not hiring an expert to help you when you know it would create the positive change and momentum you need to succeed. Making excuses that you’ll do it on your own but then never do.

Annnd breathe.



Magic is always on the other side of fear.

If this is the case you must run towards fear, never away from it.

How To Find A Wife This Year: Wrap

I’ve just revealed a viable route towards helping you find a wife.

But knowing and doing are two different things.

When embarking on a romantic adventure, sometimes it’s best to not go it alone.

As your dating coach and matchmaker, I’ll equip you with the skills and compatible women you need in order to achieve your romantic goals.

The journey starts by booking a new client 1-on-1 Zoom session with yours truly.

Together we’ll create a personalized dating blueprint that will guarantee your romantic success.

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