If you manifest her, she will come. 

Never go looking for love advice inside shops advertising two for one palm readings.

You can’t find a route to love by examining the lines in your hands. There is no hidden meaning that only a trained reader of hands can decipher.

Attracting the right woman as your life companion isn’t as complex as it’s made out to be — well, so long as you don’t follow conventional advice.

How to attract the right woman isn’t a matter of choosing the right crystals and kicking back until the universe does what you asked it to.

The universe isn’t your errand boy.

It’s a fickle beast without an agenda.

How To Attract The Right Woman

Attracting the right woman means finding her. It means being proactive and seeking her out rather than hanging back and waiting for lady luck to wink your way.

Here’s how to attract the right woman in 6 steps.

Know What You Want

Before you can figure out how to get there you need to know where you’re going.

What’s your romantic destination?

Who is this fantasy woman you see in your dreams but has always been too nebulous to describe?

It’s time to figure out exactly the type of woman you’re looking to attract.

To do so it might be helpful to answer the following questions:

• What does she do for fun?
• Where does she work?
• What kind of classes might she take?
• Where does she go grocery shopping?
• Where does she work out?
• Does she attend a spiritual community?
• What are her career interests?
• What are her passions?
• Does she give back to her community?
• What makes her laugh?
• What is she interested in learning?

Asking yourself these questions will present you with a clear picture of the woman you want to attract as well as where you can find such a woman.

In my program, I have exercises that walk students through the process of figuring out who they’re interested in and where to find them. 

Only after you know who you’re interested in can you begin to start looking.

Brainstorm Where She Might Be

Now that you know what she looks like, her interests, how she treats others, her profession, etc. you have a crystal clear image of the woman you’re attracted to.

Now it’s time to find her.

Start thinking about where your next long-term partner might be.

If you want to attract the right woman woman — one that loves spending her Sundays drinking craft beer and playing board games you need to hit up some breweries.

Or perhaps she’s a sports geek that loves football and wings. In that case find her at a sports bar, fan club, or at a game.

If she’s a yoga buff that enjoys a weekly dose of trivia, join a gym and get your yoga on and find yourself a trivia team.

If you’re struggling to find places where she might frequent, think about your hobbies. What do you like to do during your free time?

Finding someone compatible shouldn’t mean going out of your way. Keep biking, hiking, playing Scrabble, and drinking IPAs. Just try to do these activities in a more social setting that might expose you to more like-minded women.

Seek Out Her Community

One of the best ways to meet women with shared interests is to join a Meetup or Facebook Group.

If you’re in a major city, Meetups will be full of a wide range of diverse activities.

Scrolling through the list of SF Meetups I see the following groups:

• Bay Area Active & Social – 30s and 40s
• Bay Area House Concerts
• Travel Buddies and Local Events
• SF Bay Area Young, Wild, Free Singles
• Malaysian Meetup
• Vegan Food Lovers
• Swing Dancers
• East Coast Transplants
• SF Sewing Group

Each group has over a thousand members.

Even if you don’t have a connection with someone in your group it’s still worth getting out there and expanding your social circle. Chances are your newfound friends will have like-minded friends they’d be more than happy to introduce you to.

Identify and Avoid Trouble-Makers

When deciphering how to attract the right woman, sometimes our picker is off and we get in the habit of attracting toxic partners. 

Make a list of all of the bad qualities you never want to attract in a woman (again) and then brainstorm on places a woman with those toxic behaviors or habits might be located and avoid those locations at all costs.

Example: If I never want to attract another alcoholic, I should stop trying to meet women at bars.

You might be here because you’ve noticed that you’ve fallen into a pattern of attracting women you shouldn’t be attracting.

The gold-diggers, the fickle, the superficial women, the women that are clingy or too distant to be taken seriously.

Thinking more consciously about what you’re attracted to and what you’d like to avoid will help recalibrate your picker.

However, just listing traits you should avoid won’t help you recalibrate alone.

To do so you’ll need to get out into the field and start dating.

MegaDating

How would you feel about speed dating in second gear in a low-stakes environment?

Except you wouldn’t be dating random, unvetted woman in a dimly lit room for five minutes.

You’d be dating compatible women you genuinely want to spend time with.

MegaDating is a dating strategy involving dating multiple women at the same time.

Doing so isn’t just loads of fun but has plenty of benefits including:

• Finding serious partners quickly
• Refining your dating skills
• Improves confidence
• Helps avoid settling
• Did I mention it’s just super fun?

Once you’ve met women IRL it’s time to ask them out.

When doing so you’ll want to use a TDL.

TDL stands for time, date, location.

Make your date pitches clear, fun, and easy to say yes to.

For example.

The first date should be:

• Close to her place of work or home
• An activity she enjoys
• During the daytime
• Midweek or Saturdays
• Last no longer than an hour

Make your pitch sound so fun and easy to say yes to that she’s not left with any other choice.

If you’re trying to attract a beer snob ask her to a new brewery that opened up for a quick drink after work.

First dates shouldn’t only be fun and easy but under an hour and cheaper than $10.

This will enable you to date around without breaking the bank or spending all your time with strangers.

Our MegaDating blueprint also has some second and third date rules that teach you how to attract the right woman.

Second Date

Second dates should be active and 100% free. Active dates lend themselves to being touch-friendly and out of the norm. Making them free will also deter people that only want to go out with you for a free meal.

Third Dates

If she’s lucky enough to have made it to a third date it’s time to turn up the romance.

Hit that fancy restaurant, pull out all the stops, spend bigger, and have yourself a romantic evening. Make sure this date takes place on a Friday or Saturday night and that you communicate your affection for her.

Hire A Coach Like Me

Attracting the right woman takes work.

It’s an investment that requires you to be proactive.

Magically finding the right woman isn’t something that falls into your lap.

It takes effort and strategy.

But if you haven’t exactly been feeling like Brad Pitt lately and landing yourself oodles of dates, you might find yourself wanting to team up with a professional.

My program is designed to equip you with the skills you need to court women both online and IRL.

In our program, we’ll teach you everything you need to know about using TDLs, planning dates, building attraction, finding “the one,” finding compatible women, flirting, building sexual tension, and of course how to build an online dating profile that gets swipes.

Our program covers four pillars:

• MegaDating
• Profile Creation
• MegaMessaging
• Date Blueprints

We teach these four skills via four learning pathways:

• Online Curriculum
• Mock Dates
• 2x Weekly Strategy Sessions
• Private Student Only Online Community

But look all of this can sound a bit overwhelming.

The first step towards working together is to book a 1-on-1 Zoom call.

During this call we’ll discuss your relationship goals and will determine if our program, Dating Decoded is right for you.

If you’d like to learn a bit more about our program through our clients’ experiences, please check out our testimonials page.

We’ve been working for nearly a decade towards equipping men like you with the dating tools they need to show women just how great they are.