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6 Things You Can Do When Your Bumble Match Doesn’t Message You Back

6 Things You Can Do When Your Bumble Match Doesn’t Message You Back

6 Things You Can Do When Your Bumble Match Doesn’t Message You Back

When your Bumble match doesn’t message you back – or worse – unmatches you, it can be frustrating, to say the least. If you’re a guy who has been agonizing over the lack of responses you receive when messaging on dating apps, you’re not alone. 

For women, the challenge that often comes from online dating is sifting through an excess of creep-tastic messages in order to find quality, chivalrous guys to go out with. 

But for quality guys (like you), the challenge comes from receiving nothing but crickets in response to messages you send out on dating apps like Bumble. 

You want to get noticed, but how can you do so when you’ve got so much competition in the online dating world?

Lucky for you, there are several strategies you can put in place when your matches on dating sites like Bumble fail to message you back. Along with getting more responses, these strategies can help you increase your confidence, decrease anxiety and set you on a path that will lead you to find an awesome girlfriend. 

What To Do When Your Bumble Match Doesn’t Message Back

Tap Into Shared Interests

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If your Bumble match doesn’t respond, it may be because you JUST missed the mark in standing out among other guys who carefully analyzed her profile and interests.

To up your game, take a look at any shared interests the two of you may have. When I’m advising my clients on the dos and don’ts of Bumble, I always recommend that they utilize Bumble’s option to connect to their other social media, like Instagram and Spotify. 

With this option, you can easily see if you two have some shared interests and make that a topic in your follow-up message. 

Examine the Time You Sent the First Message

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They say that timing is everything, and online dating is no exception to this rule.

Sometimes your Bumble match will neglect to write you back simply because of the time of day you sent the first message. Remember, we all have work and personal obligations, and our schedules can vary. Plus, women are more likely to get bombarded by messages than their male counterparts, which runs you at a greater risk of getting buried beneath a bunch of other matches.

Take a look at the time you sent a message and wait until a different time of day to send your second message. If you sent the first message in the morning, pick the afternoon or evening to send the next one. If you chose the afternoon or evening to send the first message, send the second message in the morning.

You get the idea.

Examine the Day You Sent the First Message

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We covered how time can affect reasons why your bumble match doesn’t message you back. Now, let’s take a look at specific days.

Let’s say that you decided to send a message during the weekend. That makes sense, right? She’s most likely not at work and has PLENTY of time to scroll through your magnificent prose and should respond promptly.

Well, not necessarily.

Weekends may be reserved for time with friends, other dates or just catching up on errands she hasn’t gotten to during the work week. And even the hardest of workers need a little break here and there (hi, Facebook, Twitter, and internet rabbit holes). Checking into her Bumble account might actually occur more frequently during the work week than the weekend. 

Conversely, consider the fact that not everybody has a typical 9 to 5. She could work weekend shifts or have a flexible schedule. The digital economy has brought with it more opportunities where people can work from home or adjust their schedule based on their preferences and needs. 

In short, if weekday messages yield crickets, try a weekend, and vice versa. 

Move on to the Next Match

Don’t fall into the trap of getting stuck on one match.

If one singular Bumble match doesn’t message you back, try 3 times max, then move on to other matches. Your message cadence should look like this:

Step #1: Send the initial message (in response to her message).

Step #2: If she doesn’t respond in 24 hours, send a short follow-up message.

Step #3: If she still doesn’t respond in 24-48 hours, send a last ditch message.

A mistake that many people tend to make is getting fixated on one person rather than several at a time but it is also a mistake to give up after just one message doesn’t get a response. This can happen whether you are using a dating app or dating someone already. 

One of the points I stress with all of my clients is the benefits of megadating. Megadating keeps your social calendar full, your dating stress level low, and can propel you closer toward your goal of getting a girlfriend.

When you megadate, you never fixate on one single person. You date several people at one time in order to learn more about what you want out of a relationship, to practice interacting with women, and — in turn — gain more confidence in yourself.

But before you can megadate, you actually have to get several dates lined up. And this is why it’s important to make sure you are putting in the time to match with lots of different women on Bumble, instead of twiddling your thumbs waiting for one person to message you back. 

Relax and Switch to Another Dating App

I always recommend that my clients download several different dating apps in order to increase their number of dates. Bumble is obviously one of the extremely popular and recommended apps, but there is a bevy of other dating apps to choose from. So if your Bumble match doesn’t message you back, close it out and move on to a different app, such as:


Hinge is unique in that it puts a modern twist on meeting through “a friend of a friend.” The app finds potential matches for you by going through your Facebook friends list. Not only does this cut down on randoms, but when you see that you both have a mutual friend (or friends), it can be a great conversation starter. 

Hinge also has some cool features, like videos and comments. Click here to learn more about getting more matches on Hinge

Coffee Meets Bagel

Who doesn’t love coffee? Coffee Meets Bagel is an innovative dating app. As a guy, you’ll receive up to 21 matches (bagels). These bagel beauties will be given an option to “like” or “pass” on you, and if they “like” you, chatting commences! Like Bumble, women tend to gravitate toward this dating app since it puts them in control of taking the initiative, and their inboxes won’t get cluttered with creepers.

Although it might seem like a bummer that you don’t get to make the first move, this can actually be super beneficial. Matching with someone means they (at the very least) saw some potential for you two hitting it off. This prevents you from wasting time messaging woman after woman, even though said women may not have had an interest in messaging you (or anyone…we can all be guilty of forgetting to delete apps we no longer use) in the first place. 

How About We

How About We takes the pressure off of yammering on about yourself and cuts right to the chase. The app allows you to connect by suggesting a specific dating idea and connecting with a match who is interested. What’s great about this app is that it gets you off your phone and out into the real world, face to face with a real woman PRONTO. 

These are only a few of the dating apps out there that can get you on the road to meeting the right woman for you. For the most success in the app world, be sure to download my mega-message template. This tool has been strategically designed to get you more face time with your online matches.

Turn Your Phone Off

What’s the final thing you can do when your Bumble match doesn’t message you back? Turn off your phone. 

There’s no single strategy when it comes to dating. Online dating has opened up several avenues that singles didn’t have before, but you can still find plenty of eligible, attractive women simply by getting out and active in the real world. 

During my 100 date experiment, I learned A LOT about the modern dating world and how all of us can apply certain strategies to lead a happier, more fulfilled dating life. 

In my career, I’ve helped men just like you (yes, YOU!) get more matches online, go on more and better dates, find long-term relationships, and I’ve also helped men find women that later became their wives. 

Love isn’t something that is reserved for the lucky few. Book a New Client Zoom session with me today to learn more.

During our session, we’ll discuss your dating roadblocks and goals in order to create an action plan that will guide you toward increased confidence and success in the dating world. We’ll also determine if my private coaching program, group coaching program, or matchmaking services is right for you.  

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