30 Examples of Text Messages to Get Her in the Mood
To turn a platonic relationship into a romantic one, every man must walk a tightrope.
At some point, risks must be taken, and a man must force himself to make the precarious trip over the tightrope and towards romance.
While the trip might not be easy, it is rewarding.
Today, I’m going to show you how to walk that tightrope while carrying a bottle of malbec and a box of chocolates all while your hands are tied up with puffy handcuffs.
In this article, I’ll give you examples of text messages to get her in the mood.
We’ll walk through various contexts and provide you with a tried and true blueprint of how you can go from platonic to romantic real quick.
Text Messages To Get Her In The Mood
An out of the blue sultry text will leave you ghosted.
So instead of pouring gasoline on a fledgling flame, I’ll show you how to gradually add fuel to the fire until you’ve got a raging bonfire on your hands.
The following messages will work as texts of messages sent via online dating apps.
The Dog Lover
She’s into dogs, but you want her to be into you – so what do you do?
Think about how you can leash the platonic conversation about dogs and walk it towards romance.
Here’s what your blueprint looks like:
— A non-threatening question.
— A flirty non-threatening question.
— A sexy question.
So what does this look like in practice?
M1: Does your pup sleep in the bed?
If yes, “lucky guy” or “lucky dog”
M2: What happens when you bring home a guy?
M3: (She’ll probably tell a story about a dog and sex — dog watching sex, dog barking at the door, etc.)
M4: (React to her story and imagine you’re now in the guy’s shoes. Tell her how you’ll react differently when you come over)
Sure turning up the dial and heating things up in the space of four messages is risky, but at some point, you’re going to have to make a move.
It’s better to be prepared and move fast than move slow without an inkling of what you’re doing.
Sex & Softball
We’d all like to round the bases, but not everyone has the tact to do so.
Luckily, when it bridging the divide between sex and softball we’ve got a game plan that anyone can pull off.
M1: So, softball coach huh?
M1/2: You must be really competitive. I assume you used to play… what’s position did you used to play?
(If she responds with 1st, 2nd, or 3rd base, here’s what you say)
M3: Third base, wow, we haven’t even been on a first date yet. Wow, you like to move fast, don’t you?
(If she says “wow, dirty talk so soon”)
M4: Hey, I was talking about softball, you must have a filthy mind/get your head out of the gutter, I’m not that easy.
If you want to skip the banter you can always start off the conversation by saying:
The latter message is direct and much less sexy than the former dialogue. The difference is that it sets up a TDL and will move the dynamic from one happening exclusively online to one IRL.
Rock Climbing & Sex Themes
Rock climbing lends itself to sexy talk.
It’s intense, involves leaps of faith, trust in your climbing partner, and well is always a ripped rope or misplaced hand away from death.
Oddly enough, it’s an easy topic to segue into romance.
Here are a few first messages you can send her if you already know she’s into rock climbing:
M1: Rock climbing eh? I guess I wouldn’t mind channeling Alex Honnold for an afternoon, none to mention the amazing belay view I’d have.
Show her that you genuinely know a thing or two about the hobby she’s into. Use terms and drop references that only serious enthusiasts would know. Alex Honnold is a famous climber (yes those exist) and “to belay” is to control the ropes attached to the climber while they’re climbing.
The more hobby-specific lingo you use, the sexier you can make your message. Normally a message about someone’s booty is a risky first message. However, if you mention her ass while in the context of the hobby you might get away with it. Just don’t make the message all about her body.
The below “adventure time” text messages to get her in the mood examples will get her to think or imagine you by simply planting a seed.
Rarely does anyone ever do something new or out of their comfort zone without first imagining it.
Your job is to transition from a platonic to a romantic conversation. Doing so will build rapport and normalize romantic behavior between the two of you.
So how do you get there?
Start by asking her questions about the romantic past.
M: What’s your idea of the perfect first date?
M: Hey Jess, I’m taking a little poll, do you believe in kissing on the first date, in particular kissing with guys with the name (your name)?
M: So tell me Nicole, how can I make you fall in love with me?
M: Tell me Beth, what song will be dancing to this Friday night?
M: What’s your number one romantic turn-on?
All these messages are probing. They are slightly edgy and will help you learn more about her. Not to mention that they’re questions (daring ones at that) that if answered will give you an indication that she’s kinda into you.
If she’s already answered one romantic question, chances are she’ll answer another.
Let’s play this conversation out to give you a glimpse of what it might look like.
M1: What’s your idea of the perfect first date?
R1: Oh I’m pretty basic. A walk on the beach, craft beer, all while watching the sunset. I wouldn’t mind riding a horse either.
M2: And at the end of this perfect first date, would there be a perfect first kiss?
R2: That depends on how nice the sunset was — and how strong the beer is — but I suppose there could be.
M3: In that case how do you feel about a sunset stroll this Thursday at 7 at Freeman’s beach? I’ll be sure to bring the craft beer and chapstick.
That’s great that you’re sending her text messages to get her in the mood, but once she’s in this mood what are you to do?
Capitalize on the rapport you just built by using a TDL to ask her out.
I referenced a TDL before, but it’s worth expanding on.
TDL stands for time, date, location.
It’s the information you should send her every time you ask a woman out.
In the TDL above we see the time, 7 p.m., date, Thursday, and location, Freeman’s beach.
Without a TDL you’re just asking her on an amorphous date in the undefined future.
How many times have you told a woman, “hey wanna go on a date sometime?” and have received a yes?
Chances are a few times.
Now, how many times have you actually gone out with this woman?
Ahh, ya see.
This is why we use a TDL. It’s a concrete request to go on a specified date, one that she can yes or no to.
If it’s a yes, you have a real date that you can see and feel. If she says no, it’s on to the next one.
Leverage Quotes From Her Favorite Show/Movie
Many a Tinder user will write about their favorite show or movie — something I don’t advise my clients to do.
This might be the only thing they write about.
If so, find a pickup line from their favorite film and send it her way.
To give you an idea of what that might look like here are a few examples:
The Office will be referenced more so than any other show on dating apps – guaranteed.
So you’re Office flirt game better be on point.
Another timeless wonder you’ll see the ladies of Tinder name drop is Seinfeld.
Take your cue from Jerry and shoot her this daring opener: