It’s vacation time baby!

Pack your bags, get those floral shirts of yours ironed, and be sure to hit Costco for that tub of sunscreen you’ll forget to use as you hit the beaches of wherever you’re going.

Among the many considerations to make when on vacation, one that comes to mind is how to use dating apps.

Do you use a boost and try to quickly find a vacation fling or do you put them on pause and cherish your vacation time with friends and loved ones?

Dating Apps On Vacation

Only you know what kind of vacation you want to go on.

When it comes to using dating apps on vacation there are a million different ways they can be used.

Here are some options for using dating apps when on vacation.

Stay Signed In And Change Your Location

Remember that Tinder, Hinge, Bumble, and every other dating app goes where you go.

So if you’re traveling out of state or to another country, your online dating accounts will show you in your new location.

But what if you don’t want to date anyone where you’re going?

If that’s the case you can pause your dating accounts OR you can simply change the location so that you appear in your location of choice.

All popular dating apps have this capability. If you wish to change location simply go to settings and make the change. Chances are you’ll have to pay for this. You may be able to avoid paying by using a VPN.

In this way you, you’re not using a dating app as a game by swiping through women you never intend to meet with. If you do score a match be sure to tell her you’re on vacation and can’t talk much but would love to connect when you get back. Use this as an excuse to get her number quickly.

Grab Her Number Before Traveling

It’s pretty annoying when you’ve been chatting it up with a beautiful woman only to then have to leave town for a while.

You’ve put in the work, slowly built attraction, are about to ask for her number, and then boom, your vacation comes to squash all the romance you delicately cultivated.

It’s annoying but it’s not the end of the world.

Women respect a man that has his own life.

She’ll be interested in you, even more, to know that you’re off to jet-set around the world, or even just are getting away for a few days with friends as you camp out by a lake or something similar.

Tell her you’re going away so she doesn’t feel ghosted.

After this, ask for her number.

You’ve put in the work and have a mutual attraction. Chances are if you ask she’ll gladly give you her number.

Tell her something like…

“Hey Jen. I’ll be out of town for a few days. However, when I’m back I’d love to take you out for Mocha and a walk. Shoot me your number and I’ll make us some plans when I’m back?”

After she gives you her number shoot her a text and give her your SM.

Be sure to post all the epic stuff you’re doing to generate even more interest.

Even before the vacation’s over consider asking her out 2-3 days out from the scheduled date.

Pause If No Reception

Maybe you’re off to hike the Appalachian Trail for a couple of weeks and won’t have good service.

Getting a match but not responding isn’t going to help your love life much. Especially if your app of choice is Bumble where matches expire if 24 hours elapse without having sent a message.

If this is the case you may consider pausing the dating app while on vacation (this is called Snooze mode in Bumble).

If you know in advance that you won’t have service you can request the women you’ve been messaging for their numbers and let them know you won’t have service for a few days/weeks.

Be Straightforward With What You Want

We asked our friends on TikTok how they went about using dating apps on vacation.

One of them had some advice we want to share.

“I didn’t when I went to Vegas. I updated my bio though to say I was just looking for someone to have dinner with, no strings attached.”

I’m going to take a detour and talk about why trans people openly write they’re trans.

They do so not to waste anyone’s time.

They understand many people aren’t up for dating someone from the trans community.

This same logic has to be applied while on vacation.

Not every woman is up for seeing a guy for two days before never seeing him again.

They don’t want to make the investment in a relationship that has a set expiration date.

However, some women are up for this kind of fleeting relationship.

It’s for this reason you want to be clear on your profile and say you’re on vacation and even provide the dates.

You can write you’re looking for something casual, that you just want to grab drinks, or need a date for some epic excursion you’re going on.

Whatever the case may be you don’t have time to pussyfoot around.

Being open will save you time in the long run and lead you to meet women more receptive to your ephemeral situation.

I’ve had students of mine have success with casual dating while on vacation so it can work. Might recommend holding off on telling her you’re not from there until you start messaging, but you do you boo-boo.

I do like transparency so having it on a profile isn’t a terrible idea, just make sure you have a competitive profile (and if you need help with this, check out my MasterClass). 

People Don’t Use Dating Apps On Vacation

One of our users wrote in saying people don’t turn on dating apps while on vacation.

This is false.

Personally, I’ve gone on a bunch of vacation dates.  It’s exciting to meet someone who’s from somewhere else and can make for some of the most romantic stories of all time.

What’s most important here is that you’re not 100% plugged into your phone while on vacation.

Unwind

Using or not using dating apps on vacation is 100% your call.

I’m not going to lie, sometimes online dating can feel like a second job.

We log in every day, swipe around for 30 minutes or an hour and if we’re lucky we get a couple of matches (Dating Decoded can change that though).

Maybe take a step back and recharge by staying off the apps while traveling. Focus on living in the present and enjoying the people around you.

Another reason to eschew the apps is that I’ve seen some of my Dating Decoded students become over-reliant on apps. If you want to meet a woman on vacation (or at home) the best way to do so may be in person.

I teach my students how to meet women both IRL and online. Learning how to meet IRL will boost your confidence, improve your social skills, and casts a wider net.

Date While Out Of Town

If you can date while you’re out of town, do it.

Even if you won’t have a LTR with this person, dating them is another opportunity to fine-tune your dating skills and learn something new.

You also may learn something new about how women in different areas of the world operate and that could help improve your dating skills when you return home.

Plus, what if the perfect woman isn’t located in your hometown?

You can thank the universe later if this relationship works out. 

If You’re With Friends and Family

That said, if you’re spending time with family, NEVER neglect your family to swipe on a dating app. It all depends on why and where you’re traveling. If you’re traveling for work and have a little spare time to see what single women in the area are like, go for it.

If you shouldn’t sacrifice platonic and familial relationships for a woman you’re dating you definitely shouldn’t for one you’ve never even met before.

However, if you’re spending precious time with friends or family you haven’t seen in a while, it might be best to chill. If you’re going somewhere with limited reception (do those places still exist?), I’d pause the apps but don’t forget to tell the ladies you’re currently talking to what’s up — and ask them for their number before pausing so you can reconnect when you’re back in town.

What To Do When You Get Back From Vacation

When you’re fresh from your vacation and still have sand in your shoes, log back into those apps and get swiping.

But if online dating wasn’t working for you before why would that change when you get back from vacation?

If you want more matches, more dates, and a girlfriend, book a call with me or a member of my team today.

My program will revamp your profile and give you the online and IRL dating skills you need to have one of the most competitive online dating profiles in your area.

Let’s talk via a 1-on-1 Zoom session so we can learn more about each other and I can show you how we’ll help you meet super compatible, single women.