What’s love temperature you ask?

As the wise Katy Perry once said…

“You change your mind
Like a girl changes clothes
Yeah you, PMS
Like a bitch
I would know cause… you’re hot then you’re cold.“

Katy Perry may have been referring to how her fickle romantic flame keeps changing his mind, but her lyrics actually have a scientific basis.

Our emotional state of being impacts our body temperature.

When we get angry we get red and hot in the face and chest, when we’re embarrassed we feel red hot in our cheeks, and when we’re in love, we’re hot all over… literally.

Love temperature is a real thing. How into someone you are can actually be measured by your temperature. This is just one of the many physical impacts love can have on us.

Your Love Temperature

A recent study found that how you feel emotionally is reflected in your body’s temperature.

If you’re sad you’re cold, happy hot, and if you’re in love then you’re literally burning up.

That’s what researchers found when they examined 700 participants.

Scientists were able to induce certain emotions while studying participants. They used a variety of videos, facial expressions, and stories to do so. While doing so they were able to use infrared pictures that illustrated which parts of the bodies were hot and cold.

Here is what they found.

For the most part, negative emotions resulted in colder temperatures.

Emotions such as:

• Depression
• Sadness
• Neutral

However, not all positive emotions resulted in positive temperatures. For emotions creating warmer temperatures we have a mixed bag:

• Love
• Anxiety
• Anger
• Fear
• Happiness
• Disgust
• Pride
• Shame
• Envy

But while negative emotions resulting in warmer sensations were present, they weren’t nearly as warm or comprehensive as objectively positive emotions.

Take another look at love and happiness.

Nearly the entire body appears to be burning with a lava-like temperature.

Turns out that when we say we’re hot for someone, we’re not lying. 

Most importantly researchers found that falling in love and being depressed are on the opposite ends of the temperature spectrum.

But this isn’t the only curious relationship researchers found between our temperature and attraction.

We Like Hot People

Duh, right.

We all know that the more beautiful someone is physically the more attracted we are… at least initially.

But that’s not what I want to talk about.

A while back researchers found that the hotter you are temperature-wise the more attracted you are.

Here’s how they found this out.

In one study participants were asked to hold a hand warmer of gel pack for a couple of minutes. Next, they were asked to play games with strangers. Guess who the strangers preferred playing games with? That’s right, those with warmer hands were generally considered more enjoyable than those with cold hands.

In another study, participants were planted in a 79-degree room and asked to evaluate mugshots. Naturally, you’d think they would give low scores right? It turns out that the people in the mugshots were more favorable when evaluated in the hot room than when participants were asked to evaluate in the 68-degree room.

Yet another study also found a link between body temperature and attraction. Participants were asked to hold either a hot or cold mug. Then they had to read stories and rate the characters. Guess who had more positive views of the characters?

There are a dozen more studies just like these, but in some way you probably already knew this.

People love being warm.

We love gathering by the fire, holding a cup of warm coffee, and snuggling up with our partners to watch a rom-com in the middle of winter.

We’re All Addicts

Love has a weird way of playing with the body.

We already know that those that are in love are physically warmer than others.

But what else about our brain chemistry does love impact?

You’ve no doubt heard that love is a drug, that our brains respond to love the same way they do to cocaine.

That’s not entirely accurate.

Love for instance releases oodles of vasopressin, adrenaline, oxytocin, and of course dopamine. Not only does it release these hormones en masse but deposits them into 12 different areas of the brain at the exact same time.

Love is a cocktail of neurotransmitters and hormones all designed to make us feel all mushy inside. 

Interestingly enough, clinical sexologist Kat Van Kirk PhD says that the more time we spend with our lover the more addicted we become.

Just like drugs, just perhaps a bit more potent.

For example, it takes the average person about 3 months to kick nicotine.

A breakup however can take on average 3.5 months to heal from. This of course depends on your level of addiction to the prior love, but the point stands. Whether it’s a drug or a heartbreak both require time for your brain chemistry to balance out once again.

Drunk On Love

All the cliches seem to make sense when it comes to love.

Much research has been done on both love and alcohol.

Perhaps the two things humans covet most in this world have a lot in common.

As Joni Mitchell would say, I could drink a case of you darling, and why not?

They both release the same hormones albeit in different parts of the brain.

Whether it’s that lady from Bumble that’s got you buzzing or a bottle of Malbec, both these drugs release a ton of oxytocin and dopamine.

They also often lead to bad decisions being made.

That’s why at one point or another we’ve all barraged an ex or current love with a million text messages at 3 a.m.

That’s just what love does to you.

The Pupils

The most notable sign that someone you’re with is on MDMA is their pupils are dilated… but like super dilated.

To the point that you’re afraid for their health (as you should be).

Well, that same dilation happens when you’re in love.

If you want to know if someone is into you or not, look into their eyes.

Her attraction will be literally staring you in the face as her pupils become massive. This happens because the nervous system’s sympathetic branch has been stimulated.

Super Powers

Sure love feels like a drug, but can it also give you superpowers?

Well, kind of.

Sure this may be difficult or even unethical to experiment on, but researchers say love can in fact make you superhuman.

Specifically love releases oxytocin into your system en masse. This in turn increases your tolerance to physical pain.

That’s why we sometimes hear about a mother who had the strength to lift up a car when her children were trapped underneath.

But after that burst of oxytocin gets used up I can only imagine how she feels the next day.

Though this isn’t the only superhuman trait awarded to those in love.

Researchers have actually found that men in love have stronger bones than their single brethren. But even compared with those in long-term loving relationships versus long-term semi-loving relationships found the former to have stronger bones than the latter.

Lastly, people in love just live longer. Romantic or otherwise the more loving relationships you’re in the longer you’re life expectancy.

How To Raise Her Love Temperature

So love can do a lot of awesome things to your body.

From raising your body’s temperature to imbuing you with superhuman powers.

It’s clearly something we all want so how do we get it?

How do we make a female turn from neutral to hot for us, literally and metaphorically?

Here are a few ideas.

Ask Questions

Simple right?

Almost too simple.

Simple to the point that if you don’t implement it you’re missing out on a super easy opportunity to heat things up.

Asking her questions shows you’re interested in her. There’s nothing we find hotter than someone genuinely caring about our opinions and lives.

Take a tip from the world’s greatest conversationalist, Daniel Carnegie, and listen for about 75% of your date while talking for just 25% of the time. 

Here are some tips:

• Don’t ask general questions out of the blue but specific ones related to the conversation (chunk down)
• Ask follow-up questions
• Steer the conversation towards shared interests or values making it easy for you two to bond
• Remember what she’s said and use it to your advantage later (e.g. date ideas, run-on jokes, references, etc.)

Be Confident

Confidence is sexy as hell.

Being confident doesn’t mean puffing your chest out and being the loudest person in the room.

That’s bravado.

Being confident is about feeling at ease regardless of the situation. It’s about composure and making your voice heard. It’s about being sure about who you are and comfortable in your own skin.

That my friend is sexy.

Make Her Feel Comfortable

Smile, be confident, get the door for her, be transparent, laugh, really get to know each other, be happy-go-lucky, share something intimate, and never treat her like an object.

That’s how you make her feel comfortable around you.

It’s more than just being friendly. 

More than anything you want to build a bond. Do this quickly by sharing intimate stories about one another or by doing a strenuous activity together like going for a hike, run, or bike ride.

The more comfortable she is around you the more time she’ll want to spend with you.

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