How To Start A Conversation With A Woman Over Text That Leads To A Date
If you’re wondering how to start a conversation with a woman over text, you’re not alone.
Texting is the most important and popular medium we have for flirting.
Think about it.
Everything takes place via text.
Initial messages of affection, asking a woman out, courting her, date follow-up — literally everything.
With that being the case if you’re not a good texter you have zero chance of ever winning a woman’s heart.
With so much of the courting done via text, it’s vital that you know how to woo a woman online before you do so IRL.
In this article, we’ll teach you how to start a conversation with a woman over text.
However, online conversations are shallow and in no way take the place of phone conversation or a real life date.
With that said, this article won’t just teach you how to chat online, but how to effectively steer the conversation towards asking a woman out.
How To Start A Conversation With A Woman Over Text
Whip out that phone and make sure your fingers are at the ready.
Here are six actionable steps you can take right now to chat it up with that beautiful woman you met at the bar, yoga, rock climbing, the beach, on Tinder, etc.
1) Make An Entrance
The first message you send is your chance to make a second first impression.
It doesn’t matter how you two met, you’ve never met over text messages. How you message her will set the tone for the conversation to come.
So how do you want to play it?
Keep it simple.
She doesn’t have your number so simply shoot her a message telling her whose number this is.
If you got her number from an app say something like:
Let’s say that you met in person and had a more in-depth chat than an app might allow for. Remind her that you’re:
If you two had a laugh or riffed on something during your initial chat, this first message should touch on that positive moment from your first interaction. In this imagined scenario the guy sending the message clearly bonded with the woman he’s texting over how much he or they both like hiking.
For an even bolder move, don’t even tell her who you are.
Simply pick the conversation up from where you left it.
2) Pick Up Where Things Left Off
It can be difficult to keep the vibe going via texts.
This is why you’re going to cheat.
Instead of starting from scratch, talk to her as if the conversation never stopped.
What were you guys really vibing on before you asked for her number?
Were you talking about the amazing Pitbull she just adopted, the fact that John Mayer is the most underrated lyricist in music, or how much you two miss Lunchables?
Whatever the case might be simply start messaging her about that conversation.
Milk it until it’s run dry.
But here’s the thing.
Every conversation has its limit.
There’s only so much you can say about how overrated Beyonce is before the conversation goes stale.
After a few more exchanges you should be ready to take the conversation from online to IRL.
By this point you should have built up enough rapport to be able to:
1) ask her out
2) have her say yes
3) know what she’s into so you can use a compelling TDL
3) Ask Her Out
I’ve said it before but I’ll say it again.
Dating apps aren’t actually for dating.
As Ellen Fisher — anthropologist, senior research fellow, at The Kinsey Institute, and all-around badass — says, people have dating apps all wrong:
4) If She Rejects Your TDL
Rejections are bound to happen.
This is how to behave when she rejects you.
Firstly, address her objections.
Perhaps she writes you saying: