Hi guys, it’s Emyli–and this week we’re talking about how to improve the quality of your dates. Keep in mind that this guide is meant for people that are discovering the many benefits of MegaDating and utilizing it as a strategy to achieve their dating goals. If you haven’t mastered the art of MegaDating yet, head on over to this article to learn why MegaDating is the best dating strategy, or go to this page to book a coaching session with me on Skype and I’ll show you how to get started on the fastest path there is to finding the perfect woman for you.
If you’re already beginning to implement the MegaDating strategy into your dating life, congratulations! Once you get started, it’s easier than ever to continue raising the bar and scheduling more dates with exciting, beautiful women.
I know how awkward first dates can be (here’s some first date tips for men to help you), but here’s the thing: If you’re not letting loose and having fun on your dates, you’re not presenting your best self. I’ve written this article to help you learn how to improve the quality of your dates, (once you’ve mastered quantity), and turn each and every date into an opportunity to have a great time.
Show Her Your Best Self: How to Improve the Quality of Your Dates, Instantly
First dates can be awkward and sometimes, even painfully so–which can be quite discouraging. It’s easy to feel like a date with the wrong person was a waste of time. The truth is that no date is a waste of time, no matter how bad it is. Even if that person was wrong for you and everything went terribly, you can use a bad experience as learning tool and a guide to finding the one.
What if I told you that there’s a way to feel more confident, have more fun, and show her your best, most authentic self on every date you go on?
By adopting the following strategy, you can:
- Enjoy your dates to the fullest, even when they’re with someone you’re not into
- Feel excited and positive about the experience
- Become instantly more attractive to your date
- Feel less awkward and nervous and more relaxed and confident
- Show her your best self every time
- So how do you do this? Easy. Pull out your bucket list.
Turn Every Date into a Bucket List Adventure!
In case you’ve been hiding under a rock in the last decade, a “bucket list” is a list of things you hope to accomplish before you die. (Tip: If you haven’t seen the 2007 film The Bucket List yet, you really should!)
A bucket list can help to change your perspective on dating. Incorporate your personal bucket list into inspiration for your dates. If there’s something you’ve always wanted to try or a place you’ve wanted to go, now’s the best time to cross it off your list for good.
Skip the traditional dinner and a movie, walk in the park, or coffee shop date. Instead, do something that truly excites you. You’ll feel happier, relaxed and more natural–which will make you seem more attractive, charismatic and adventurous, guaranteed.
So, how do you get started? Follow the next steps to learn how to improve the quality of your dates by turning them into bucket list adventures.
Step #1: Create Your Bucket List
A lot of people already have bucket lists. If you don’t have one, then what are you waiting for? Get out a pen and paper, download a bucket list app, or open up a new document on your laptop–and get started now.
Whether you’re planning on using one for dating or not, I think that everyone should have a bucket list. There’s nothing more important than living life to the fullest, in my opinion. A bucket list forces you to set a clear intention about what you want. This clear acknowledgement of your deepest wishes and dreams gives them the best chance to come to fruition someday.
So the first step, obviously, is to make a bucket list. If you already have one, pull it out and read it over again. Make sure there are plenty of things on the list, and really take some time to add as much to it as you can. You want it to be long and filled with things that make you feel alive, excited, and inspired.
Clearly, not all of these items will be possible to live out on dates. Read on to see how you can implement them onto your list of dating ideas anyway.
Step #2: Reflect on Your Bucket List
Now that it’s complete, take a moment to reflect on why those particular things made it onto your bucket list.
For example, let’s say your bucket list includes:
- A trip to Italy
- Publish a book
- A trip to Costa Rica
On a separate page, write notes about each entry. Try to clarify the real, deep reasons as to why this particular entry made it onto your list. For example:
I want to go to Italy because I want to experience the culture. By that, I mean I want to talk to Italian people and ask them questions about their day-to-day lives. I also want to try the wine in all different regions and eat authentic Italian pizza. It would also be cool to see Venice and explore its history.
Do this for every item on your list.
Step #3: Determine How to Achieve Similar Experiences on a Date
Now that you’ve figured out the “whys”, examine each of them more closely. Consider how you can achieve the same type of experience on a date. Take the Italy example, for instance:
BUCKET LIST ENTRY: I want to experience the culture. By that I mean I want to talk to Italian people and ask them questions about their day-to-day lives.
Instead of going on a trip to Italy, we could…
Visiting the Italian district in my city and even scheduling my first dates at an authentic Italian coffee shop in Little Italy. Perhaps by attending events put on by Italian groups or clubs, we might enjoy a simulated experience of being in Italy without actually going there.
Wine tasting selections from Italy’s different regions and eat authentic Italian pizza. I could get several bottles of wine and have an Italian taste test party with friends and invite a woman I’m dating.
Make an authentic Italian pizza recipe and have a pizza making party with friends and a girl I’m dating. Or I could just do an authentic Italian cooking class as a date.
Visit museums in my area and explore exhibits related to Italian culture, cities or the countryside. I could rent Italian films that take place in Italy, grab a bottle of Italian wine and have a themed “Netflix and Chill” night with my date.
In another example, let’s say your desire is to climb Half Dome in Yosemite. You could plan a quick hiking expedition through a nearby trail close to home. Or, a journey to Costa Rica could become a timed Costa Rican animal scavenger hunt at your local zoo, followed by dinner at The Rainforest Cafe.
See how many ideas you can get from a bucket list? The possibilities are endless here, and your creativity can go a long ways in making your dates fun and enjoyable both for you and for her. Keep writing, and see what great ideas come up.
Stuck in a Dating Rut?
No matter how determined you are, or genuine your intentions may be–dating will be a waste of time unless you learn to get strategic about it. If you’re having trouble with how to improve the quality of your dates, or realizing an effective strategy that works, you will end up settling for someone you’re not that excited about or giving up on dating altogether.
Before that happens, I want you to think out of the box for a second. Consider the idea that you might be doing it all wrong. Imagine what would happen if you actually applied a researched and proven strategy to your dating game. What if you had the tools to feel more confident, have more fun and attract better quality women? What if there were a better, faster way to land a great relationship with the woman of your dreams?
Contact a Professional Dating Coach, Before it’s Too Late.
The older we get, the harder it gets to find dates–and the scarier it feels being single. Isn’t it about time you put a real, concerted effort into getting exactly what you want? Don’t even think about settling or giving up until you’ve given your all into finding the love of your life. You deserve true love. A great dating coach like me can help you get on the fast track to a better life, guaranteed.
We can get started with a one-on-one intro session on Skype to discuss exactly what’s going on, your best strategy, and how to improve the quality of your dates. It’s about time you made a real, concerted effort to get what you want, and I can’t wait to help you get there.