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5 Best Dating Apps NYC Men Should Download & Why

5 Best Dating Apps NYC Men Should Download & Why

NYC is the kind of place that makes you fall in love every time you step outside.

There are women from every background, with international style, speaking every language imaginable, and that will satisfy your romantic criteria no matter how picky you are.

If NYC has one thing it’s a glut of incredible women.



But as many women as there are walking the streets of the city there are even more online.

Sure in the course of a day, you’re going to pass hundreds of single women.

But you can swipe through a couple of hundred women in a couple of minutes online. Not to mention you can filter them based on location, if they’re single, height, hobbies, etc.

That’s what makes online dating in NYC better than just about any other city in the world. Its sheer volume of single women means that there’s someone unique out there for everyone.

Best Dating Apps NYC

But how do you find these women?

Each dating app is unique.

Every app caters to a specific audience, offers unique features, and most importantly has a different volume of users.

So before indiscriminately downloading every app you can think of, let’s talk about the five best dating apps for NYC.

Tinder

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You knew this was coming, didn’t you?

To be clear this article is about the best dating apps for NYC residents.



Even though Tinder still has the stigma of being a hookup app, it’s still an awesome app to meet women who want to date.

Why do I say that?

It comes down to numbers.

Tinder has about 11 million active monthly users in the US alone. A great deal of these users are in NYC making Tinder the most used dating app in the city. 

For this reason alone you should have Tinder in your online dating repertoire.

As you may know, Tinder is primarily used by young singles — but perhaps not as young as you thought (as the graph below indicates).

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You can think of Tinder as the starter dating app. It’s the first app many people will download when they want to begin their search for love online.

It’s also the app that has the largest percentage of users that have never dated anyone on the app.

Daily Mail reported a few years back that only 50% of Tinder users have ever dated someone they met via the app.

So what do users use the app for if not for finding romance?



As you can see, about 70% of users aren’t using the app primarily to find romance.

They’re bored, want a confidence boost, or just want to talk with someone online.

There’s one more thing about Tinder you should know.

A recent study found that for every 9 male users there is just one female user.

This ratio makes Tinder the most uneven dating app on the market. You’ll find more women in a vasectomy waiting room than on Tinder.

So why even use it?

Again, it all comes down to numbers.

Despite the lopsided ratio, there are still more women on Tinder than other dating apps.

To stand out from the blob of men on Tinder just watch this video.

That being said you should in no way wholly rely on Tinder to find love.



Bumble

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If Tinder is your starter dating app Bumble is what you move on to when you’ve outgrown Tinder.

Bumble in many ways is Tinder’s older more mature female sibling.

Bumble for example was founded by Tinder’s co-founder Whitney Wolfe, has a near identical UX to Tinder, and attracts many of the same users. The major difference between the two are:

  • The users are generally slightly older than Tinder’s
  • Users are looking for more long-term relationships
  • More socially conscious users
  • Women have to message first

It’s this last feature that is the app’s most unique.

Bumble is known as the feminist version of Tinder.

That’s mostly good marketing, but this is the one feature that feminists may cheer for.

Women are bombarded by messages from guys they will never talk to.

Whether they’re SMS, IG, or Tinder messages, women are inundated on a daily basis.

This feature gives women the opportunity to have a bit more control over who they allow into their message inbox.

Some other cool Bumble features include:

While the features are similar to that of Tinder what isn’t similar is the gender ratio.



As mentioned previously Tinder’s ratio is 9 men to every 1 woman. Bumble boasts just 7 men to every 3 women.

If you’re a guy in your early 30s trying to find a LTR Bumble is a better option than Tinder.

Not to mention that Bumble users are more serious about finding a partner than Tinder users.

That is evidenced by the amount of paying users the app has. If you’re not serious about finding a partner you’re not going to dish out money.

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Definitely get your swipe on Bumble if you’re looking for a single, socially conscious woman who is ready to find a long-term relationship.

Hinge

Of all the apps we’ll discuss, Hinge might just be the least superficial.

As their awesome commercials will tell you, Hinge is the dating app designed to be deleted.


Hinge claims to genuinely want to find you a partner, as opposed to getting you addicted and locked into an endless swiping circle.

Speaking of swiping, Hinge only allows users 8 likes every 20 hours or so.

Hinge limits the number of swipes you have so that you’re more aware of who you like and dislike.

But this isn’t the only feature that makes Hinge less superficial.

Hinge also:



  • Promotes a user’s personality via an in-depth profile
  • Offers users a chance to use 3 unique profile prompts
  • Send a message when you like a photo
  • Adds an audio feature to your profile
  • Has an anti-ghost feature that reminds users to apply to messages
  • Matchmaking algorithm that pairs compatible users

I freakin’ love Hinge and it’s the one app I tell all my students to download.

Hinge users are typically:

  • More serious daters
  • Looking for LTR
  • Are on the older side

Hinge is one of the best dating apps in NYC because it really gives users the chance to display who they are.

NYC is full of personality and superficial apps like Tinder do a disservice to singles wanting to be seen as more than just a pretty face.

Raya

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Do you know some of the users pictured above?

Chances are you do.

Some of Raya’s most notable users are Demi Lovato, Khloe Kardashian, Ben Affleck, Lizzo, etc.

Raya is the most mysterious of dating apps.

The founder rarely speaks to the media, marketing campaigns are next to nothing, and users are forbidden to take screenshots or talk about fellow users.

Kinda makes you want to join right?

Just one problem with that.



Raya has an application process, one that can take a day or even years.

Unlike most other dating apps you can’t simply sign up for Raya and join.

You must apply and be screened through about 500 screeners.

Only once you’ve been screened are you allowed to join.

So what are screeners looking for?

According to Raya’s founder, this exclusive app is designed for those in the creative industry. That means no plumbers or accountants allowed.

The typical Raya user looks like this:

  • Mid-to-early 30s
  • Super good looking
  • Has at least 10k IG followers
  • Can easily get backstage passes to whatever concert they want

Raya is an app for entertainers, influencers, models, actors, and everyone in between.

That’s why so many celebs flock to it.

It’s exclusive, full of beautiful people that all work in the same industry, and is selective.

How selective are we talking?

Raya has an acceptance rate of 8%.

As a consequence, it only has 10k users.

So should you join Raya?



If you can, why not?

One of our team members here at emlovz is actually a user.

Hailey is a celebrity stylist that joined Raya a couple of years back.

She sees it as a superficial dating app for really good-looking people. Quite a lot of users just want to climb the social ladder. But some users are definitely in it for love.

I definitely recommend downloading Raya if you’re in the entertainment industry. NYC no doubt has the most number of Raya users in the country.

The League

Even though it sounds like a place where bros can meet other bros, this romantic misnomer is a dating app nearly as exclusive as Raya.

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If Raya is Illuminati Tinder, The League is Elitist Tinder.

The League was founded by the self-proclaimed alpha female, Amanda Bradford. 

After graduating from Carnegie Mellon’s business school Amanda entered the dating pool as a boss bitch. She was ready to take over the world, was super educated, wicked smart, and didn’t want to settle.

She wanted a man that could handle her.



But after a few dates with men she met on other dating apps she realized that there was a large pool of men that can’t handle her.

Men that aren’t super ambitious, aren’t highly educated and aren’t ready to date a woman as formidable as they are.

So she created her own dating app, The League.

She wanted to create an app for a super successful, educated woman, with an impressive career could meet her equal.

Thus The League was born.

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But if The League was designed to attract users within a certain league, who uses the app?

From the lips of the founder herself, Amanda says that female users breakdown as such:

The women in The League have consciously prioritized their education and career trajectory: 98% have college degrees, 8% are pHDs, 30% have advanced degrees, 14% are director-level or higher, 21% are managers, 13% are CEOs, founders, co-founders or owners, and over 39% are estimated to be making six figure salaries. And this is all with an average (and median) female age of 29.

If you’re looking for a badass independent woman, The League is your app.

But obviously not just anyone is accepted.

According to founder Amanda Bradford, 20-30% of applicants are ultimately accepted. 

In order to increase your odds of acceptance do the following:

  • Fill out your profile in-full
  • Log into the app various times to check the application status
  • Have at least a BA
  • Killer job
  • Updated an impressive LinkedIn and Facebook (required)

Signing up takes just 15 minutes, but waiting is the tough part.

Users have reported waiting anywhere from a couple of weeks to over 6 months. 

So what is this app going to cost you?

The reason I’ve yet to include prices of the best dating apps for NYC residents yet is because they’re all pretty cheap and have free versions.



The League does have a free membership but if you want to skip the waiting list and start using the app today you’ll have to dish up some big bucks.

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Some of the perks of paying the big bucks include:

  • Skipping the waitlist
  • More prospects (users) that have been picked especially with your likes in mind
  • Video dates

All in all, it’s safe to say the paid version isn’t worth it.

Which Best Dating App NYC Should I Choose?

That’s the thing.

You don’t have to just choose one application.

If you want to MegaDate (date women simultaneously) I recommend downloading and being active on a few of these apps.

Certainly download Bumble and Hinge and ideally one more exclusive application.

The key for any of these apps is to 1) use them at least 10-20 minutes a day and 2) create a quality profile. 

Too many guys struggle online, not because they’re sub-par but because they don’t present well.

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Via our online curriculum, private community, and 2x weekly coaching sessions we’ll teach you what you need to know in order to attract women online.

NYC is a competitive place but we’ve taught various students from the Big Apple how to court women on dating apps.

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