You see that beautiful woman over there?

Yep, that one.

I bet you wanna take her out don’t you?

Maybe order a few Modelos and go salsa dancing or hit the theme park and bond over your shared fear of heights, fast things, and projectile vomit.

I know you want to date this beautiful woman but there’s something holding you back — and believe it or not, it’s not your looks.

I mean sure what beautiful woman wouldn’t want to date the dapper, insanely charming, Brad Pitt type, but no it isn’t your looks or charm holding you back, rather the blockage is much more psychological than that.

In this article, I’ll teach you how to get over yourself in order to get the girl (insanely hot) girl.

Tips for Dating a Beautiful Woman

As expected it all starts with rejection.

100 Days Of Rejection

As it stands, you don’t think you’re worthy of that knockout blonde.

It’s understandable.

You’re using an ancient brain to deal with a 21st-century problem.

Back in the nomadic days, we didn’t have the option of comparing ourselves with hundreds of other men. We lived in small, compact communities where everyone knew everyone else and everything (yes everything) was shared.

But nowadays our prehistoric brains are constantly comparing ourselves with others. The free-flowing open communities of old are over and we’re not dealing with the prospect of competing with thousands of men for just one woman.

The present dynamic gives women the ability to reject whom she pleases.

However, there’s a way to deal with such rejection.

It involves, well, getting reject… a lot.

Jia Jiang is a man that lives her life with a bruised ego. But instead of letting his ego heal, he searches out rejection.

Like the average human, Jia was terrified of getting rejected.

He changed careers and decided to become an entrepreneur. But it wasn’t the lack of an innovative idea or funding that held him back, rather it was fear of rejection.

To deal with his fear he engaged in exposure therapy.

For 100 straight days, he sought out rejection.

He asked people to rate his attractiveness from 1-10, asked to play soccer on a stranger’s lawn, and even asked strangers he met in a supermarket parking lot to have dinner with him. 

Whether Jiang realized it or not he was practicing a well-known psychological treatment therapy known as exposure therapy. The idea’s simple really,

By exposing oneself repeatedly to the thing that produces fear, eventually, that fear will wane as they learn to cope with the stimuli.

Exposure therapy is often used to treat people with phobias.

But you my friend most likely don’t have a phobia, just a healthy dose of fear associated with asking beautiful women out.

I get that.

One of the ways to manage that fear is to repeatedly interact with beautiful women.

Doesn’t sound like a bad assignment doesn’t?

Through repeated exposure, you’ll see that you are in fact worthy of asking out but also dating a beautiful woman.

Create Your Own 100 Days of Rejection Experiment

Jia’s experiment sounds fun and all, but just learning of its existence won’t help you.

Instead, you’ll have to live it.

Try your hand at rejection.

Rejection of course isn’t the goal, rather facing situations that elicit fear is and being able to manage it is the goal.

You can do this a million ways.

Being that your fear is derived from interacting with beautiful women I suggest going out of your way to do so.

Talk to them at gyms, malls, on apps, at work, at the coffee shop, etc.

You don’t have to flirt with them, rather simply say something, anything.

Every day, poke at your comfort zone and stretch it just a bit further.

If you need help mapping out your 100-day experiment use Jia’s app or simply planning how you’ll push your comfort zone at the beginning of each day or week.

100 Reasons Why

100 reasons why is an exercise in self-love.

It’ll show you what makes you special, different, worthy of a beautiful woman, and will even help you create a bomb online dating profile. 

So how does it work?

It’s straightforward really.

Simply write out 100 reasons why you deserve a beautiful woman.

Maybe you’ll write something like:

Develop Your Ideal Persona

She’s a 9 and you’re a __.

What if you could bump up your score?

You know you can.

One of the most impactful ways to consider yourself worthy of a beautiful woman is to improve your own self-worth.

Do this by turning into your ideal self.

Of course, this journey is long and arduous. Don’t stop interacting with the beautiful women of Tinder just because you haven’t reached the peak of the journey.

What would it take for you to increase self-esteem?

Start with identifying what you like about yourself.

Think about what you’re good at. Can you make a mean curry, are you kind to your parents, do the shoelaces you tie never get undone, are you a supportive co-worker?

Even though you might feel low, you have good qualities. If you’re struggling to think of them, ask a friend.

When raising your self-esteem remember to be kind to yourself.

This is what Neil Strauss, a self-proclaimed recovering PUA has to say about it.

 

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That’s a pretty good life lesson; don’t be a dick to yourself.

Here are some other ways to boost self-esteem and become your ideal person:

— Find a new hobby

— Start that side project

— Start going to the gym/running

— Do something difficult

— Take a class (psychology, Spanish, yoga, speed reading, cooking, etc.)

— Get off IG and FB

— Make a new friend

Tips for Dating a Beautiful Woman: Read Mindest & Unfu*k Yourself

Everyone knows knowledge is power, but I prefer an even better maxim; knowledge is sexy as hell.

There are few things sexier than a man with a book in his hands.

That image gets even sexier depending on the book he’s reading.

As far as that’s concerned I have two recommendations.

First, there’s Mindset: The New Psychology of Success.

In her book, renowned Stanford University psychologist Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D., extolls the power of one’s mindset. The book argues that people have the ability to change their mindset. Just because someone has a fixed mindset — someone who believes abilities are fixed — doesn’t mean they can’t develop a growth mindset — someone who believes that abilities can be developed.

She teaches readers how to unlock a growth mindset.

Once this new mentality is achieved there’s nothing that can hold you back from accomplishing even the most ostensibly insurmountable obstacles.

The second book is, Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life.

Make Change Actionable

Everyone wants to change in some way but few do.

Most people are even willing to read the books above about change yet refuse to take that last step.

The only way to make meaningful life changes it to get your hands — and ego — dirty.

Do this by first listing out what you don’t like about yourself.

Perhaps you don’t like that:

— People don’t listen when you speak

— Slightly overweight

— Feel like you could be earning more money

Now that you’ve identified the problems it’s time to figure out solutions.

Chances are you probably already have a good idea of what those solutions look like.

If that’s the case make a list of actionable steps you can take to begin to change these things you don’t like about yourself.

Sleep With Confidence & Self-Worth Hypnosis On To Retrain Your Subconscious Mind

You are getting sleepy, verry sleeepy.

Let’s be honest the jury is still out as to how effective hypnosis is.

What we do know however is that listening to confidence/self-worthy hypnosis videos is in no way detrimental to your development.

Not to mention that listening to this takes much less effort than the 100-day-rejection exercise.

That being said this should be used as a supplemental tactic.

Use Positive Affirmations

Saying a positive affirmation is akin to lifting a weight, over and over again.

We’re willing to invest in our physical health so why not our mental health as well?

If you’re not a fan of repeating the same positive phrase over and over again, that’s fine.

You don’t need to brainwash yourself with affirmations to get the most out of them.

Research suggests positive thinking can calm the nerves, improve the odds of a successful outcome, and increase confidence. You don’t need to cheat yourself by repeating the phrase, “I’m a lion” over and over again.

Rather focus on your positive qualities and gently offer yourself praise.

Blue Dot Days

That’s right, we stole this technique from Weight Watchers.

In WW, if you reach your nutrition goal for the day, a little blue pops up on your calendar for that day.

The blue dot is used as a way to motivate Weight Watchers.

The same tactic can be applied to men trying to date beautiful women.

Except instead of coloring in your calendar blue when you hit your nutrition goal, color it in after messaging 10 new women for the day.