It’s easy to make the wrong move on a first date. I mean, you really don’t know much about the other person. You don’t know her habits, likes, pet peeves, or the ways she shows she’s sexually attracted on a first date.

Misinterpreting an indicator of interest could result in a missed opportunity, no second date, or worse… the dreaded friend zone.

To help you discern the difference between sexual signs and platonic ones, let’s reveal the universal signs women use to show that they’re sexually attracted on the first date.

Signs She Is Sexually Attracted On The First Date

Before we start, allow me to make two points.

The first is that if she displays just one of these signs that doesn’t mean she’s into you. The more signs you can identify the better the odds are that she’s interested. 

Secondly, men tend to mistake a friendly woman for a flirty woman. Being that it’s the first date she may try a little harder to appear vivacious and friendly. That doesn’t mean she’s super into you, though. Don’t get overly excited and jump the gun just because you noticed that she’s playing with her hair and making prolonged eye contact.

Be patient, confident, and wait until she’s displayed a few signs that she’s sexually attracted before going in for the kiss.

She Leans In

Not because she can’t hear you or because she’s cramped, but because she genuinely wants to get closer to you.

Whenever a woman invades your personal space or physically gets closer to you, that’s a good sign.

Is it a sign she wants to take it to the next level? Not necessarily. Pair this sign with others to more accurately gauge her sexual interest.

She Touches You

Unless she’s kicking you in the groin, all touching is good touching.

On a date, we’re only going to touch someone that we like. Perhaps she isn’t sexually attracted to you yet (you’ll be able to tell from the touch) but she does have affection for you. Maybe you just opened up and she feels connected to you, so she touches your hand. Or maybe you two are walking down the street side by side and she bumps into you. Or perhaps, something a little more obvious like letting her leg rest on yours under the table.

All touches are good touches. Whether it’s a playful poke or a kiss on the cheek, these are all good signs.

But all touches mean something different. A poke isn’t the same thing as resting her hand on your leg. It’s up to you to decipher the touches and determine how sexually into you she is.

She Lingers When You Touch Her

All touching is good but not all touches are equal. 

How does she react when you touch her?

Does she recoil or slowly move away or does she indicate that she enjoys the touch and even reciprocates?

If she doesn’t move away from you this could be a sign that she’s into you. But be careful. If she allows your touch to linger but then moves her arm the second she has a chance, it may be because she’s not 100% comfortable with you. The reason she lets it linger is because recoiling could make things awkward. This may mean she’s not 100% into touching at the moment but could warm up to it.

When you do initiate contact, be sure to be aware of her non-verbal cues.

A Lot Of Laughter

Laughing is really only done in a social setting. This is because it serves a social function.

It signals to other humans that we want to connect. 

As you well know, laughter isn’t always a sign of sexual attraction, but it is a sign of attraction and connection. If she’s laughing at everything you say or even 50% of your jokes, chances are she’s into you.

How into you is she?

That all depends on how hard she cackled when you busted out the Dad jokes.

She Smiles More Than A Lottery Winner

That’s because in her mind, she has just won the lottery of love… maybe.

Like laughing, smiling while looking into someone’s eyes, signals a desire to connect.

Even if she’s a smiley person in general, this is still a good sign.

If you’re into her, remember to return her smile with one of your own. If you’ve started to notice the signs of attraction mounting up, consider kicking things up a notch by initiating touch.

She Rolls Her Eyes While Smiling

I imagine this happening after a bit of banter.

Maybe you were just bragging about your Mexican cooking skills and told her (a Mexican woman) that you could teach her how to make mole. Naturally, she’s going to smile and roll her eyes (if she’s into you).

This could go the other way and she could just roll her eyes in disgust, but if it’s accompanied by a smile, you’re golden.

Sneaking A Peek

Maybe she’s sneaking a peek at your lips while you’re not looking, or maybe it’s your arms, or your face.

Whatever the case, she can’t get enough of you. She wants to soak you in. Of course, if she got caught staring, the game would end.

Instead of putting all her cards on the table, she steals a peek. She isn’t certain how you feel about her. So naturally she’s going to conceal those feelings until she’s certain how you feel.

Her Feet Are Pointed Toward You

The feet show you where she wants to go and the body never lies. 

To be fair, if you’re on a date, it’s natural that she’ll point her body your way but her feet, her feet will tell the true story.

What I’m talking about is a constant desire to point her feet in your direction. Whether you’re waiting in line, sitting down together, or talking to a group of people. Her feet and thus her interest is always pointing your way.

Uncrossed Arms

Humans cross their arms because they feel threatened or uncomfortable and want to protect themselves.

Uncrossed arms don’t mean she’s sexually interested in you. However, uncrossed arms is a prerequisite to trust. If she sits with you throughout the entire date with her arms crossed, it’s a clear indication that she isn’t into you.

Even if you’ve identified other signs on this list, this sign most likely negates them all.

She Keeps Touching Her Hair (But Not The Ends)

She’s touching her hair a lot for two reasons:

• She wants to look good
• Feels a little nervous

The latter reason is because she’s using her hair as she would a fidget spinner. She can’t seem to relax so she touches her hair repeatedly to calm her down.

And of course she keeps adjusting it because she wants to look good for you. Now why would she want to look good if she wasn’t sexually attracted to you on a first date?

She Retouches Her Lipstick and/or Powders Her Nose When She Goes To The Bathroom

In many cases this is a clear sign that she’s sexually attracted to you on the first date.

This is because she wants to look good for you.

She wants you to be attracted to her, so she spritzes some perfume, checks her makeup, applies more lipstick, and dolls herself up.

She’s on a mission – to win your heart.

Solid Eye Contact

Women look at what most catches their eye.

If she’s engrossed in conversation, she won’t take her eyes off of you.

If she’s bored, she’ll direct her attention elsewhere.

Her Eyes Dilate

Our eyes dilate for a few reasons.

Because it’s dark, we’re on drugs, or we’re interested in something or someone.

If she’s more dilated than you’d expect it could be because of something she just put up her nose or a pill she swallowed, but more than likely it’s because she’s feeling you.

She Teases You

When we like someone we tend to turn into middle schoolers. We poke, tease, and have fun with the person who has won our desire.

Is she challenging you, having good banter, making fun of you, and joking?

These are strong signs that she’s sexually attracted to you.

She Asks You What You Think Of Something She’s Wearing

She not only wants your approval but your eyes on her.

Your date knows what she’s doing. She’s purposefully placing your attention on her body. Not only this but she’s giving you the perfect chance to tell her how beautiful she is thus signaling your interest and giving you (and her) permission to flirt. 

Leverage The Signs Your Date Is Sexually Attracted On The First Date

Reading the signs is one thing, but leveraging them to escalate sexual attraction is another.

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