The dreaded read receipts are enough to drive a man (or woman) mad.

It’s the text equivalent of being completely ignored.

Every man knows what it’s like to be left on read, yet not have your message responded to.

Today we’re going to flip the script.

Now we’re going to take a look at what’s going on in a woman’s brain when she’s left on read as we answer the question, should you leave her message on read?

Should You Leave Her Message On Read?

Read receipts indicate to the recipient that you have read the message they sent. Read receipts can be found on just about every major messaging application from Apple’s Messages to WhatsApp.

You might be thinking that you can do away with this question and the headache altogether if you just turn read receipts off.

That’s true to an extent, but if you turn read receipts off, you’re missing out on a chance to show transparency. 

Being transparent in your romantic relationships shows confidence, maturity, and that you’re not a man who wants to putz around and play games. This is why you should keep read receipts turned on.

Doing so communicates that you’re a man and not a boy.

Now let’s answer the question at the heart of this dilemma, whether you should leave her message on read or not.

If You’re Serious About The Relationship, Respond

Naturally, the more serious about and into a woman the less time you’ll want to wait to respond.

If you can’t stop thinking about her, of course, you’ll want to respond right away, and thus not leave on her read. Leaving a woman who doesn’t play games on read, is a big nono. Seeing her message but waiting a day to respond is a turn off.

She won’t see you as a real prospect and will lose interest as a consequence.

Show her you’re a man to be taken seriously, and that you’re not a player by shooting her a message within an hour or so of it being read. Of course, this isn’t always feasible or even a good idea.

If you’re in the middle of something (work, with friends, etc.) and happen to read her message, you might be too busy to send the perfect text. If she’s important to you (and if the relationship is in its early stages) you’ll want to dedicate 5-10 minutes or so to plotting out the perfect text to send.

Naturally, this may require waiting a couple of hours. Waiting 2-3 hours is okay if your intentions are in the right place. If you feel like you took too long to respond, say you were at work and wanted to wait until later so you could give her text your full attention.

Whatever you do, never leave a woman you’re into on read for over 24 hours. 

No, She Might Play The Same Game

In today’s day and age, our phones are more a part of us than our thumbs.

They’re with us at all hours, basically making them the newest human limb.

So when it takes you forever to respond to a message (especially one that she knows you’ve read) she’s going to wonder why you haven’t responded. She knows you have your phone with you, so why in the world would you not message back?

She isn’t going to take too kindly to this delay in communication. Sure she might bombard you with messages but more than likely she’ll give you the same treatment you gave her UNLESS you can justify the lengthy delay.

Let Her Know Your Texting Habits

Maybe you’re the type of guy who never texts back at work. Or maybe you’re the guy who is just a crappy texter.

Whatever the case may be, get ahead of any confusion your texting habits might cause.

Make it clear to her the type of texter you are before she starts to feel some kind of way. Getting ahead of this will temper any anger or ill will your texting style might create.

Trying to justify leaving her on read after the fact makes you look like an ass; regardless of the reason why. She’ll always think, if he really cared, he would have responded.

Tell her that you’re a busy guy and dedicate periods of your day to responding to text messages. 

Let her know you’re a luddite who hates technology or that you have detox periods of the day – whatever your reason for perhaps leaving her on read, let her know before it happens.

In fact, it will even cast you in a positive light to let her know that you have set boundaries with your social and work life and that you’re not addicted to your phone.

No, She’ll Move On

Don’t assume you’re the only man she’s dating.

Just like if you’re MegaDating you’re dating multiple women, she may be doing the same. 

Sure she may like you, and hell, you may even be her number one option. But she’s not going to take too kindly to a guy who leaves her on read for hours or days on end. She has self-respect and other options (guaranteed). She won’t wait around for your texting habits to change, instead, she’ll move on.

No, But Keep Texting To A Minimum

Just because you don’t leave her on read doesn’t mean you have to do the opposite and bombard her with long text messages a few times a day.

At emlovz we teach students to text sparingly between dates (this is especially the case early on in the relationship). You don’t want to tell her your whole life story or get to know her via text. Getting to know someone in person is a much richer and more satisfying experience than getting to know someone via text.

Keep the mystery alive by only texting her info about the upcoming date.

Shoot her a text here and there when you have something interesting to say (to keep her interested). Tie your texts back to something you two were discussing on your previous date.

When responding to her texts, keep your responses to a minimum. Don’t seem unfriendly and certainly don’t give one or two-word responses, but also refrain from writing 10-paragraph stories. Find a happy medium to keep her satisfied while retaining the mystery.

Yes, If The Message Doesn’t Require A Response

There are certain situations where being left on read is a-okay.

If she messaged something that doesn’t require a response, then there is no need to respond back.

If she responded to goodnight with a goodnight of your own, leave her on read.

Or maybe she send an emoji or sticker as a confirmation that she’s on her way, cool, leave her on read.

If you’re sure the message doesn’t 100% require a response, it’s fine to leave the message on read, someone has opt to read a message and not respond or else the conversation would go on forever.

Should You Leave Her Message on Read – Big Picture

Be a man and use read receipts. If you’re using an iPhone, and you want a sneak preview of her message – look at your messages preview section and flip your phone horizontally to see part of her message without actually opening it. There’s the hack if you require one.

Even this way, you’re still playing games – and leaders don’t play games, they take charge. What type of man do you aspire to be?

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