So you’re ready to start playing the field again. Luckily for you, the dating scene has changed quite a bit. Say goodbye to roaming the strip with your buddies and picking up single women at the bars until 3 a.m. The dating scene has become more civilized since you were last single. Especially when it comes to meeting single moms.
If you’re worried about the size of the dating pool, don’t be. There are approximately 10 million single mothers in the US right now. It’s not a matter of there not being enough suitors out there. Rather, it’s about finding the right one.
Let’s figure out which social channels you’ll have to tap in order to find the right single mom for you.
As I mentioned, you probably won’t be finding your next sweetheart at a bar. A PTA meeting is the antithesis of a bar. Think about the women that attend PTA events. At no other event are you as likely to find women that you’re targeting in such robust numbers. PTA events are primarily attended by women with children the same age as your child. Once you arrive all you need to do is look for a ring to ascertain who’s single and who’s not.
Only a certain type of woman attends a PTA event; one that cares profoundly about the education of her children. PTA women seem to have a bad wrap for being arrogant and pushy. The belief is that they use their influence to alter the school’s culture or programs. This is the case for some women, but for the most part these events are attended by parents that simply care about their child’s education. If you too have a child, you might consider this to be an attractive feature.
If you’re new to the PTA scene, keep your cool. Conduct yourself in the same manner you would if you were entering a pool. Slowly enter the foreign waters of the PTA being sure to only make ripples once you’re acquainted with your surroundings. The PTA can be a pretty territorial space. Get to know people on an individual level before making your opinion known to the entire association. In this way you’ll also be able to build intimate relationships with certain members. Should you want to ask a fellow PTA member out, simply broach the idea of getting coffee and talking about school matters.
Enroll Your Children In Youth Sports
This one is only possible if you have children. Should you hangout at youth events without a child your future Mrs. might get the wrong idea. This context is perfect for meeting women. Not only will you be able to meet other single parents but you’ll also be supporting your child.
There’s no better way to bond with someone than to cheer your kids on while they’re competing on the pitch, court, or ice rink. It shouldn’t be too difficult to identify the other single parents in attendance. Showing up week after week will also ensure that you and your new beloved will gravitate towards each other. By the end of the season you will have created a strong enough bond to ask her to see her outside of the context of a Sunday ballgame.
Your exposure to single parents isn’t limited to gamedays. You’ll also see fellow single parents at practices and other team events. Be sure to show up early to every practice and game. If you want to see how she operates outside of a sporting context, broach the idea of a play date.
Meet Single Moms: Join A Gym Or Enroll In Fitness Classes
This is the beauty of being on the prowl for single women as a divorcee. Before you might have gone to a club or bar to meet women. Nowadays instead of meeting women at the price of killing your liver you’re killing two birds with one stone. Joining a gym will not only make you more fit –thus increasing the odds of being noticed by a potential mate- but you’ll also put yourself on track to meet single moms.
While joining a gym and hitting the weights is one way to meet single mothers, the best way to do so is to enroll in a fitness class. Gyms offer a variety of fitness classes. However the ones that are packed with women are likely to be yoga, spin, dance, and aerobics classes.
Along with signing up for a gym and enrolling in fitness classes you can also get into attending meetup group events. Meetup is an application where users meetup in person to engage in certain activities. The most popular groups in San Francisco for example involve hiking, coding, mediation, and soccer. Meetup is active in all major cities and is a great way to meet people with interests similar to yours. It’s not unlikely that your city is home to a singles group. No matter how odd your interests might be, you’ll be able to find like-minded singles through the application.
Your friends know you better than anyone else. They also probably know a woman or two that you’d be interested in. Why not mine your friends for potential partners? Your buddies will be more than willing to set you up with a friend or acquaintance of theirs. Naturally your friends will be able to filter out women that aren’t your type.
If your friends aren’t much help there’s always online dating. Just meeting someone that fits your criteria in person can take ages. Online dating provides filters that can quickly narrow down your search and provide you with a pool of single women that meet your criteria.
Perhaps online dating still carries a stigma in your mind. This is because during the single days in your 20s, it was still looked down upon. However, the opinions of Americans have changed. Nowadays more than 72% of Americans believe that a relationship that blossomed online is as valid as one that originated from an IRL situation.
Despite the newfound approval of online dating, many daters 30 and older still complain about not getting results. This is most likely because they’re unfamiliar with online dating. Each dating application and website is designed with a certain user in mind. Tinder for example is perfect for singles between the ages of 18-24. Other applications such as Bumble and Happn also target a younger audience. Here are a few online dating applications that will help you meet single moms.
Match.com is one of the oldest dating websites. It was founded in 1995 and has enjoyed its ups and downs since its genesis. Match.com is great because it has a large user base and is geared towards older singles. Another plus is that the first six moths of Match.com are free.
The worst part about eHarmony is that to view photos or send messages you’ll have to pay a subscription fee. If you however decide to subscribe, eHarmony claims that you have a 69% of finding your spouse via the website in just a year. Sure that sounds too good to be true and it may well be.
That being said 15 million matches are created everyday. If your goal is to find a serious partner, this is the website for you. It’s on the website that you’re likely to find ample single moms. Perhaps you could search for an eHarmony free trial while you register for a new account.
Plenty Of Fish
Unlike eHarmony, Plenty Of Fish is free to use. POF’s biggest appeal is that it utilizes an in-depth matching process that will send each user handpicked profiles everyday.If you’re looking to sign up for POF, here’s a couple articles that’ll help you land more dates:
OkCupid requires users to answer a myriad of questions when creating an account. This means that the application is able to offer unique filter options that will reduce the chances of matching with someone that doesn’t fit your criteria. Compared to the other applications, OkCupid’s user-base is a bit younger, but that doesn’t mean it should be avoided. Using a variety of channels will increase your odds of meeting the single mom that’s right for you.
Hit The Dog Park
But only if you have a dog. If not it’s akin to going to a playground without a child. It’s less creepy but arguably even more pathetic. The dog park is as much a bonding place for humans as it is for their furry friends. Considering that you and every other person there already have something in common, it’ll be fairly easy to strike up a conversation. The dog park is frequented by all kinds of people. Should you own a dog it’s likely that you’ll eventually make it out to the park. You won’t find a torrent of women at the dog park. But if you spend a couple hours every weekend at the park there’s no doubt that you’ll meet a single mom or two.
I wouldn’t be surprised if it took you a second to realize what a mani-pedi is. It’s not often that a man spends a Sunday afternoon getting his finger and toenails done. At first glance this may seem like an odd place to meet women. But going to a nail salon ensures that you’ll meet women. Who knows if they’re single or not, but you’re more likely to meet single moms here than in just about any other spot on a Sunday afternoon.
Before attending a speed dating session, make sure that the event caters to single parents. Call ahead and ascertain that only single moms and dads will be participating. Of all the ways to meet single moms that have been explored in this article, this is the only medium that guarantees meeting various suitors that meet your criteria in a short period of time. It may feel like a contrived way to meet people and you might be throw out of your comfort zone. But everyone else at the event is in the same boat as you. If you’re serious about finding a new love, this might be the best option for you.
Co-Ed Sports League
Let’s be frank. It’s doubtful that you and your partner will be placed on the same dodge ball team. But a co-ed sports league is a network. Your interactions won’t be limited to those on your team. Co-ed leagues have a much more fraternal atmosphere than non-co-ed leagues. It isn’t uncommon for you to build relationships with members of the opposing team. Your chances to meet someone don’t end when the final whistle is blown. The whistle signals the end of the sporting event but the beginning of the bar crawl. Throw on your sneakers, pick up a ball, and show off your athletic ability as you engage in the age-old dance of attracting a mate through physical prowess.
Consult With A Dating Coach
Dating is never easy, but it only gets harder as your criteria for a potential suitor shrinks. I’m not saying that you won’t find an eligible single mom that makes you swoon. What I am saying is that it might not be that easy.
To put you on the right track let’s have a New Client 1-on-1 session via Skype where we sit down and evaluate the best way to move forward. During our intro session we’ll diagnose your dating history, discuss any current issues that may be holding you back, co-create an action plan, and see if my 3 month coaching program could be right for you!