9 Tips for Finding Love After 50 From a Dating Coach

Everyone deserves and is capable of finding love regardless of age.

Maybe you’ve already found but lost it or maybe you’ve been looking for a while but have come up empty-hearted.

Whatever the case may be, the reality is that whatever you’ve been trying hasn’t been working. This doesn’t mean you’re doomed to singlehood, rather, it means you need to adjust your strategy.

Let’s dive into the tips specific to finding love after 50 that you can apply to your dating life right now.

Finding Love After 50

To be clear, these tips can be applied by both men and women.

Regardless of gender, these strategies can work for you; you need only apply them to your dating life to get the results you desire.

Craft An Ideal Partner Avatar

We have all fantasized about our ideal partner.

We’ve thought about what they look like, how they laugh, and how they respond to adversity and have pictured you and them doing your favorite activity hand in hand.

We can use that romantic daydreaming to create an avatar.

To create this person we’ll start with a crude block of clay and gradually shape your perfect partner into existence.

We do this by asking questions like:

What characteristics are you looking for in your next partner?
What characteristics are you not looking for in your next relationship?
Analyze your past relationships – which partners of yours displayed these positive and/or negative characteristics?
Any trends on where you met the last partners?

This is not a checklist per say but something that can help you stay on track.

Think about the characteristics you’d want in your ideal partner next.

What are the 5 characteristics you definitely want and do not want in your next long-term partner?

We have a detailed guide in our coaching programs (click here for more info), but if you’re looking to do this dating journey on your own, just jot all this down on a piece of paper.

This avatar will be your lodestar. It will guide you when dating around.

It can be easy to get sidetracked by the newest shiniest thing when MegaDating; but is this person best for you? Your avatar will keep you on track.

Importantly the avatar will also give you an idea of where you’re most likely to find this ideal partner of yours. Frequent the places where you’ll likely find your ideal partner.

MegaDate

If you’re out there finding love after 50, you’ve no doubt noticed dating isn’t what it used to be.

No longer do we go out with one person at a time until we realize the relationship isn’t worth investing in.

Dating today feels like a slower version of speed dating – and that’s a good thing. It’s more normal to go out with various people at the same time, only becoming exclusive after an explicit agreement is made. Yeah, I know that explicit agreement thing may have just scared you in you’re over 50, but don’t let it!

With the many options we have at our fingertips via dating apps, the dating pool has no bottom. This limitless dating landscape enables both men and women to avoid settling for the first person that comes their way.

Dating apps give you a database 1000x your local matchmaker.

What all this means is that you have better odds than ever before of finding a partner you’re super compatible with.

Make the most out of this new landscape by MegaDating. MegaDating is simply dating prolifically. It means dating people simultaneously. It looks like going on 20 dates in 90 days.

Dating around like this will:

Expose you to a ton of new people
Boost your confidence
Help you avoid settling
Give you a large enough pool of singles to compare and contrast
Give you a shortcut to finding your ideal partner

Get On 5 Dating Apps

We’ve already sung the praises of dating apps, now let’s put that praise into action.

40% of all new relationships start online.

The easiest way to find a romantic partner is by logging onto dating apps and swiping.

But not all dating apps are created equal.

There are over 1,500 dating apps on the market. We don’t want you to download them all, but we do recommend downloading five; these five to be exact.

Hinge

Hinge is billed as the “dating app designed to be deleted.”

It offers users a wealth of profile features so you can really display who you are as opposed to just what you look like. It also provides users with super-specific search filters so they can refine their search and only read profiles of compatible singles.

It’s safe to say Hinge is our students’ preferred dating app.

Bumble

Bumble is like Tinder, but designed with single women who desire a long-term relationship in mind.

It’s easy and fun to use, and out of all the apps listed here as by far the most users. It also has an older milieu than Tinder, making it an excellent choice for someone looking for a partner in their 50s.

The League

The League is the only app on this list that requires users to apply. It has an acceptance rate of 20-30%.

This app was designed by an Ivy League educated and highly ambitious woman who couldn’t find men that equaled her smarts, wit, or ambition. So she created an app for successful, goal-oriented singles (who for the most part graduated from a top-notch school).

If you want a highly educated partner to conquer the world with, apply to use The League.

Match

No doubt you’ve heard of Match before.

It’s one of the oldest and successful dating apps (and companies) on the market.

Match is over 25 years old and caters to singles 30 and up.

44% of users are between the ages of 30-49, whereas 37% are 50 and up.

eharmony

eharmony is another dating app geared towards singles 45 and up.

You may be tempted to only download Match or eharmony as they are similar and target the same demographic. Doing so would mean compatible singles would surely fall through the cracks.

Cast a wide net by downloading five dating apps.

Up Your Style

You are who you look.

This never changes. In fact, dating arguably gets more superficial as you age.

If dating apps are your primary social channel, you’re going to get judged on how you look more so than if you were to meet people in person.

With so little information to go on, singles only spend only a couple of seconds looking at a profile before swiping.

If you’re not dressed to impress they’ll swipe past you.

Give your style the upgrade it may need to help you stand out online and on your first date when you team up with our celeb stylist, Hailey.

Chances are Hailey has styled some of your favorite actors, now it’s time for you to take a seat in hair and makeup as Hailey gets you ready for your next date.

Open up your closet so Hailey can help give you the makeover you may need to catch the attention of your ideal partner.

Treat Dating Like an Experiment

Dating need not be as serious as you’ve been making it out to be.

Dating should be a fun experience where you try new things, meet new people, and work to figure out who you’re most compatible with. To find a partner in the 2020s as a 50-something you’ll have to try some new strategies.

Embrace the newness of this experience.

To learn how to navigate these new waters, check out our masterclass for men and masterclass for women.

Join Communities

To meet like-minded people in your 50s get out there and live life.

If you’re finding love after 50, ditch the bar scene.

To meet someone you can easily connect with, join an interest group.

Here are a few I have in mind:

Gym (join group classes)
Co-ed sports group
Yoga
Group dance class
Adult ed classes
Pickleball/tennis club
Bowling league
Meetups
Facebook Groups
Religious groups/meetings
Volunteering
Golf club

There are dozens of places you can go to meet singles your age. You just need to brainstorm a little bit and then build up the nerve to get out there. If need be, ask a friend to join you.

You can also join support clubs and online communities like Dating Decoded.

When you join our community, you’ll be surrounded by supportive coaches and students who are in the same boat as you. You’ll empathize, strategize, build bonds, and find accountability buddies that will hold you to your romantic goals.

Going it alone can be tough; so don’t.

Join a community that gets you.

Get Guidance

Life is just easier when you have a teacher to help you out.

emlovz doesn’t just have one coach but a team of coaches to teach you the ways of dating in the 2020s as a 50-something-year-old.

To teach you how to quickly find a highly compatible partner in just weeks and become the most eligible single in town you’ll team up with romantic experts, each skilled in their own unique area to support you.

Our Team

Emyli, co-founder, curriculum developer, head coach, and I host coaching sessions every week
Thomas (me), co-founder, and coach.
Cat, Brooke, and Audrey are mock date specialists for men. Go on a practice date with them (and receive feedback) before your next date
Darshil is our mock date coach for women. Go on a practice date with them (and receive feedback) before your next date. He’s also our confidence coach and NYC dating expert.
Hailey is your new stylist. She’s worked with celebs from every industry and is now about to raid your closet
Tilly is our holistic sex & intimacy coach. She’ll help you get the most out of your sex life so you and your partner are happier between the sheets
Aundrea is an award-winning fitness coach. Are you ready to eat right and get fit?
Mia is our social media expert. Revamp your Facebook and Instagram profiles with her help and start meeting singles online

Our Community

And look, we realize that the single life can be difficult. If accepted into our coaching program, Dating Decoded, you’d be joining a community of supportive singles and coaches who are there to listen, support, and encourage you as you navigate the single life.

Our program offers every student a lifetime membership (as if you’ll need it) so the support won’t stop until you’ve found your ideal partner.

If you’re ready to find your forever partner, book a Zoom session with our team today. Together we’ll talk about your dating history, your goals and show you how our program, Dating Decoded, can help you find your ideal partner.
Learn how our students have already improved their dating lives.