A Christian dating coach can help you find not just any partner, but one that aligns with your values, respects your faith, and appreciates you for you.

But I’m not here to talk about how to find any dating coach, but rather how to find the best Christian dating coach. Many a charlatan populate the Internet. We’ll show you how to find a keeper who understands who you are and the type of person you’re interested in attracting and can give you the skills you need to find this special someone.

But we can’t talk about the best coach out there without surveying the dating landscape for a Christian and tackling some of the most-asked questions that single Christians want answered.

Best Christian Dating Coach

A devout Christian single may have unique preferences and values they look for and adhere to when looking for a partner. A quality Christian dating coach respects and understands this in a way other coaches may not. Let’s find out how to find a quality coach and detail the romantic landscape that awaits you.

How Should You Date As A Christian?

The very first step is to understand the type of partner you want to be with.

Before figuring out the best way to date, find your romantic north star. This will help you find your ideal partner.

To do this, we teach our students to create an ideal partner avatar. To build this ideal partner profile, consider what you enjoyed most in past relationships. Give this avatar characteristics you know you enjoyed in previous relationships, along with ones you want your future partner to have. Also, be mindful of what you didn’t enjoy in previous relationships. 

Take the good and eliminate the bad.

But be careful not to list superficial or ego-driven characteristics or details. How much money they make, their height, weight, and yes sometimes even religion may all get in the way of you finding the right partner.

Their race, profession, or which sports team they support don’t matter, what matters is how they make you feel.

Focus on creating, and then finding the partner you will best connect with. Perhaps that means someone who is intellectual, gets your humor, and loves being around family.

I encourage you to be open to dating someone who doesn’t share your religious identity. Limiting yourself to only Christians will shrink the size of your dating pool. Not to mention it means not exposing yourself to a ton of great men or women.

When creating this ideal partner profile, don’t use it as though it were the law.

What I mean is, it’s okay if the person you’re on a first date with doesn’t check off every box on your list. What’s important is that you enjoy yourself and how they make you feel. After the date compare the experience with your checklist. If you found yourself enjoying unexpected aspects of this person consider amending your avatar. On the flip side, if you find yourself being attracted to unhealthy traits, checking in with your avatar will keep you centered on finding an ideal partner rather than someone to whom you have a fleeting attraction.

And remember that placing too much pressure to find a certain person can make a relationship blow up.

Think about what you two share and have in common rather than superficial traits. Think more about this and how you feel with them and be open to dating someone who aligns with you but comes in an unexpected package.

This was the case when I was dating my now husband and emlovz co-founder, Thomas Anthony.

He wasn’t a CEO, wasn’t (and still isn’t) 6’0, and doesn’t know how to dance. But he makes me feel amazing whenever I’m with him and I know I made the right choice to spend the rest of my life with him.

How to Find A Coach Who Aligns With Your Values

A lot of dating coach came out of the woodwork during the pandemic.

Many started it as a side hustle and are still working as a coach on the side.

This isn’t to say they’re not good coaches, but they don’t have the proven track record or dedication that other coaches have.

emlovz for example, has been helping men and women find not just any partner, but their ideal match for 12 years now. We have a long and proven history of equipping students with the skills they need to find and court their perfect partner.

But a coach with a long history doesn’t make them qualified. You need to learn how they’ve impacted their students’ romantic lives. To find out, read reviews. Read Google, Yelp, and reviews on their website to ascertain how effective they are.

If you want a coach that aligns with your values and understands what it’s like to date as a Christian, make sure some of the reviews on their website are from (formerly) Christian singles.

Take a look at Jonathan’s review below. His Christian faith played a massive role during his dating experience. After enrolling in our program he found his now wife in just months. Listen to his story below.

Be aware that one coach isn’t enough to address every aspect of your dating life.

There is no one person out there that has all the answers. When searching for a coach, look to make sure the person you’re teaming up with has a collective of coaches made available to you.

When you team up with us at emlovz you’ll have access to a range of coaches each specializing in a different aspect of modern dating.

Here’s a quick rundown of some of our coaches:

• Emyli (me), co-founder, curriculum developer, head coach, and I host coaching sessions every week
• Thomas, co-founder, and coach. He’ll lead the biweekly Man Cave event where men come together to talk dating, bond with one another, and support other single men
• Brooke, and Audrey are mock date specialists for men. Go on a practice date with them (and receive feedback) before your next date
• Darshil is our mock date coach for women. Go on a practice date with them (and receive feedback) before your next date
• Renee is our anxiety dating coach. As a licensed therapist she knows the steps needed to turn you into a cool, calm, and collected dater
• Hailey is your new stylist. She’s worked with celebs from every industry and is now about to raid your closet
• Tilly is our holistic sex & intimacy coach. She’ll help you get the most out of your sex life so you and your partner are happier between the sheets
• Mia is our social media expert. Revamp your Facebook and Instagram profiles with her help and start meeting singles online

Should Christians Kiss While Dating?

This is completely up to you.

Juggling faith and dating is a balancing act that everyone deals with differently.

While the Bible doesn’t explicitly say that kissing before marriage is prohibited, there certainly may be some Christians who don’t feel comfortable kissing or being physically intimate before marriage.

It’s important that you have an open discussion with your partner or the person you’re seriously dating in order to manage expectations and to better understand their beliefs and values.

Remember to be open and respectful and to hear them out.

Boundaries of Dating and Christianity

It’s important that you clearly define boundaries when entering a serious relationship.

Even prior to becoming serious you may want to make it clear what you’re looking for and what you’re comfortable with. You may consider doing this on your dating app profiles or being forthright on dates as to what you’re comfortable with when it comes to intimacy.

How Long to Date Before Kissing?

This is a question a few of our Christian students have posed to us.

Really, it all comes down to personal preference.

My recommendation is by the third date you may want to see if there’s chemistry via the kiss. A kiss will tell you if there is intimacy. That said it’s important that you express your comfort level and manage the timeline/expectation.

Kissing on the third date isn’t a hard rule, but we’ve found that many students and the people they’re dating feel comfortable kissing around the third date, but again this may vary greatly from couple to couple. 

Should You Use Christian Dating Apps?

Another question we often field is whether or not our students should be using Christian-specific dating apps such as Upward, Eden, or Christian Mingle.

If finding a Christian partner is a must, then we recommend using these apps, however they’re not the only dating apps you should have on your phone.

In fact nearly all of our students, Christian or otherwise, have had greater success using Bumble and Hinge.

The reality is that Hinge and Bumble have exponentially more users than niche dating sites. Sure, not everyone on these apps is Christian, but by using keywords on your profile, you can attract like-minded Christians.

We’ll teach you how to broadcast what you’re looking for and game the algorithm so that you’re put on a romantic collision course with signs that you’re most interested in dating.

How Do I Get Back In the Dating Scene?

Maybe you’ve been focused on your career, are recently divorced, or just haven’t been interested in dating for a while.

If that’s the case, you may find the modern dating scene a bit confusing. Between the applications and new rules of engagement, it can be difficult to navigate the ever-changing waters of the modern dating scene.

Our program, Dating Decoded will equip you with the modern dating skills you need to find, court, and forge a long-term relationship with someone that you’ll want to be with forever.

Via our online curriculum, weekly coaching sessions, and mock dates, you’ll learn everything there is to know about finding and reeling in an amazing partner.

But look, we also understand that dating can be a lonely experience.

That’s why we’ve created a community comprised of students and coaches. In this community you’ll make friends, find an accountability partner, and find the support you need to keep going.

To learn more about our program, Dating Decoded, and our philosophy, MegaDating, book a one-on-one call with our team. 

When you join you’ll learn how to go on 20 dates in 90 days and will join a supportive community full of students and coaches that understand exactly what you’re going through and will support you long after you’ve found your match.