Welcome to 2023.

It’s a new year.

That means new opportunities, new you, and hopefully a new leading lady in your life.

All the years spent yearning for a girlfriend and feeling as though nothing you try will work are in the past.

The feelings of inadequacy have died with the old you.

This year you start a new, sexier, and more fulfilling life.

Ready to be reborn?

Let’s begin.

How To Get A Girlfriend In 2023

The first thing you need to do is stop listening to people that want to change you.

Just Be You

I think every guy has taken to the internet to try to figure out how to be more attractive to women.

Often this leads us down an unhealthy rabbit hole that sees us listening to pick-up artists and toxic bros that claim we need to be high-value men in order to attract a woman.

They tell us to stop being soft, to be more masculine, and to become an alpha male that takes what he wants.

Sounds good for a second until you realize you’re life isn’t a Bond movie.

Women don’t swoon when you dominate them with your masculinity. They don’t reciprocate when you behave macho and steal a kiss, they’ll either feel sexually harassed and/or ghost you.

So what should you do instead to win her affection?

The advice just be you is perfect, but it’s a bit more nuanced than that.

For the most part, you do want to be you.

You want to show her your humor, intellect, hobbies, weird yet loveable quirks, etc. If she’s attracted to your alter ego a la The Nutty Professor, you’ll have to perform for the rest of your life.

Sacrificing the parts you love about yourself for someone else will only lead to resentment.

That being said, there are minor tweaks you can make to be seen as more appealing.

Maybe that means not showering a woman with gifts too early in the relationship, maybe it means going out with more than one woman at a time, or buying a nice new shirt that makes you look like a 10 for a first date.

To get into the relationship of your dreams in 2023, you need to work smarter than your competition.

Here’s how you do it without sacrificing who you are.

Analyze Your 2022 Results

We like to think of dating as this magical, whimsical experience.

We like to think that anything could happen at any time and that it’s just a matter of time before the universe gifts you an amazing woman.

Truth is, that’s not how it works.

The people that are most likely to meet a super-compatible partner, put themselves out there more often than others.

To figure out where you’ve gone wrong in the past, let’s have a look at your past life.

Specifically, take a look at your 2022 dating results.

Take out a Google Drive spreadsheet and spend 20 minutes filling in any relevant dating information from last year.

Write down every method you used to secure dates.

Some things you might include are:

• Dating apps you used
• How many minutes a day you used these apps
• How many matches you scored a week
• Methods of meeting new women (via friends, at parties, the gym, co-ed sports, at work, speed dating, bars, etc.)
• Which methods worked best?
• Number of first, second, and third dates
• Number of matches
• Total number of dates and women you dated
• Number of women that were excited to date you
• No. of short-term relationships you had in 2022

Write out and quantify your romantic life in 2022.

In this way, you can see what areas most need improvement. Maybe after you score a date you have amazing dates, meaning you just need a way to find more first dates.

Whatever the case may be writing out your life in 2022 will help you more effectively analyze it.

What Are You Going To Differently This Year?

Next, what are you going to do DIFFERENTLY in 2023? Now that you have all of your 2022 efforts on paper, come up with 5 to 10 things you’re gonna do differently this year.

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over.

So, focus and execute these 5-10 new strategies for 2023. Doing so will give you a much better chance of getting a girlfriend, long-term relationship, or companion this year.

Here are some new strategies you might try:

• Download 3-4 dating apps
• Revamp your dating profile
• Never start a conversation with “hey” or a variation
• Start meeting more compatible women through hobby events (via Meetup and FB groups)
• Say hello to a new woman every day to work on conversational skills

Make a concrete plan that involves exposing you to more women.

Build Confidence

I don’t know you brother but I know the men that enlist the help of our coaching program.

They’re great guys, have great careers, good intentions, etc.

The one thing most seem to lack is confidence.

They come to us because they’re down on their romantic luck, naturally, that’s deflated their confidence.

Our job is to help you get it back.

There are a million and a half ways you can regain confidence.

Here are just a few:

• Exercise — start jogging or lifting
• Solidify social relationships, yes even building stronger platonic ones will boost confidence
• Get off social media — studies show it leads to depression even in adults
• Honestly assess your abilities, be aware of shortcomings and address them
• Learn something new — maybe that’s a language, instrument, how to work out, knitting, etc.
• Practice something you know you’re bad at
• Talk to yourself as you would a 5-year-old — in other words, be nice to yourself

Try out a few of these strategies until you find one that works for you. 

Women freakin’ love confidence.

More so than a hot guy, a rich guy, or a guy with good jokes, women love a confident man.

It’s that confidence that will allow you to approach more women, take more romantic risks, and put yourself in the best possible position to create a meaningful romantic relationship.

Change Your Mindset

Next up, if you’re looking to find a girlfriend or long-term partner in 2023 or really any year is MINDSET.

How can you develop an irresistible mindset so that when rejection arises, you remain unaffected?

For me, it’s about repetition and community.

When I was single, I made it a goal to talk to 10 new women each and every week. Whether that was in person at a social event, or online — and I found that eventually this just totally snowballed for me.

And, when one of the women snubbed me, the rejection didn’t feel so bad because my romantic funnel was full.

If you’re afraid of rejection, my advice would be to embrace it.

Welcome fear and rejection, in fact, use it as a lodestar. Whenever you start feeling scared, run towards that feeling as opposed to away. On the other side of fear is magic. On the other side of whatever is making you fearful is something you want.

That beautiful woman at the party scares the crap out of you.

Awesome.

Seek her out and start a conversation. You don’t need to go in with a win-or-lose mindset. All you need to do is open your mouth. Right now, simply saying hi counts as a win. 

If you’re terrified of rejection I recommend checking out how entrepreneur Jia Jiang dealt with his fear.

But you don’t have to go through this journey alone.

Having a strong community of like-minded people is huge when you’re a single man.

When I was single, I found that eventually all of my single friends slowly faded away.

A couple of years later, they were all wifed up and I had nobody.

I know how crappy it is going through this alone. I remember my early 20s when all my friends were single and we would chase women around and share war stories.

That’s why wanted to create that exact environment at emlovz.

In our program, Dating Decoded, we’ve created an amazing online community of single men all looking for long-term love.

When men join our program they’re welcome to ask for an accountability buddy right away. Not only will this person hold you accountable but they’ll be there for you along your journey. Hit them up when you need a boost, when you want to strategize, or just when you want to grab a drink and talk it out.

We also hold monthly Man Cave events where we get together and talk about whatever is on our minds. This community wards off feelings of loneliness, inadequacy, and whatever else that may hinder you from finding a woman.

Eliminate Blindspots

Sometimes we’re too close to see our faults.

Sometimes it takes someone else’s opinion to realize your shortfalls.

That’s as true for fixing your golf swing as it is for dating.

There are likely things you’re not seeing — whether it’s the way you show up on dates, your conversation skills, your dating app messaging skills or texting skills, the stuff you’re doing in the bedroom, etc.

And that’s what we do over at emlovz each and every day.

We expose these blindspots for our students and it propels them toward finding their next relationship.

Want to learn how exactly we do that?

Click this blue button to free your romantic genie.

One very real way we help men see their blind spots is with a mock date.

With the help of Brooke, Audrey, or Cat our mock date specialists you’ll learn what is and isn’t working when you go on a date. After your date, these ladies will tell you what worked and what could be improved. You’ll get an actual scorecard, just like back in school.

Set Goals

We all know what your no. 1 goal is — to find a romantic partner.

But that’s too abstract of a goal.

Setting concrete, short-term goals can help you achieve this ultimate goal.

So what does that look like?

Here are some examples:

• Swipe right on 20 women a day
• Go on one date every week
• Attend one party every two weeks
• Speak with a new woman every couple of days
• Work out three times a week (not all goals need to be romantic)

Quantify your goals and hold yourself accountable or get a friend to do that for you.

Start looking at dating as an experiment and the anxiety will soon start to roll off your sleeves.

And if you’re not trying to invent the wheel, emlovz and our program Dating Decoded is the major leagues of dating coaching. We’re the Phil Jackson of dating. In our program, we’ll give you all of our systems and processes (including our former matchmaking outreach processes) so you don’t have to reinvent the wheel.

Don’t Take Advice from Someone Who Doesn’t Have What You Want

There are far too many people with far too many ways to give advice today.

Every time you open your phone you’re inundated by people voicing their opinion.

Anyone can make noise, few make sense.

Really consider what you want.

Is it monogamy, is it the American dream?

What is it?

Get clear on what you want.

Then break down WHO you want.

What type of woman are you looking for?

It’s a lot easier to find what you’re looking for in life if you have a good idea who it is you’re looking for.

Once you know these things only take advice from someone that has those things.

If you want a loving, lasting long-term relationship with an amazing woman, we can show you how to get her.

We know how to get you a girlfriend.

Via our online curriculum, weekly live strategy sessions, online community, mock dates, and monthly events, we’ll equip you with the skills you need to court the woman of your dreams.

Book a 1-on-1 Zoom call now so we can talk about your goals and learn how you can achieve them when you team up with us.

If you want to really learn if we’re the real deal just ask our students about their dating lives.