To most, San Jose is known as a thriving tech hub. To men, it’s known as Man Jose. 

For those in their late 20s there are 3.5 single men for every 1 single female. 

If we zoom out a little bit we see that there are 90 women for every 100 men. 

While San Jose has a lopsided singles gender ratio is also doesn’t really have the urban life that say nearby SF or Oakland boast. There aren’t a ton of places to meet or take out single women. 

What all this means is that women can afford to be picky. Not only this but many may decide to prioritize their professional life over their love life. 

If you’re a man, San Jose is one of the most difficult places to date in the nation. 

Here are some of our favorite first date ideas in San Jose:

• Sign up for a cooking class
• Indian Buffet at The Mynt
• Winchester Mystery House
• De Anza College Planetarium
• Stroll Through the Alum Rock Park

The best dating apps to use when dating in San Jose are: Hinge, Bumble, Tinder, and The League.

To meet women online, especially in a place like San Jose, you may look to more niche dating apps as well. Chances are you’ll be greatly outnumbered by men online. Choosing a lesser known app may work to your advantage. We recommend using around five dating apps.  

Most of the men we’ve worked with are in the Bay Area. 

Myself and my co-founder and husband Thomas have lived in the Bay Area for most of our lives and are particularly aware of the dating scene in this area, the challenges men face, and how to overcome those challenges. 

Read about the success stories of Bay Area men here. 

emlovz isn’t just one person, it’s an entire team of dating consultants and experts working relentlessly towards one goal: finding you an unbelievable partner.

Our dating coaches offer perspectives from both male and female points of view. Our coaches are also millennials as well as Gen-X and Gen-Zers. We know how to help you speak with women regardless of their age, background, or love language. We’re both online dating coaches that will teach you the way of the swipe, but also teach you the IRL dating skills you need to know.

Our program, Dating Decoded includes:

• Live Weekly Coaching Calls Twice A Week
• Mock Dates
• Robust Online Curriculum
• The emlovz workbook
• Private Coaching Sessions with anyone on our team
• Accountability Buddies & Full Social Network

But perhaps most importantly, we won’t abandon you after a set period of time like other coaches. Enrolling in Dating Decoded means you’ll have access to our program (and coaching) for life.

We’ve spent over 10 years refining our program to help you go from a dating novice to a confident man so popular with women he’ll have to turn dates away.

Upon joining Dating Decoded, you’ll seamlessly connect with a vibrant social network comprising hundreds of other clients. In addition, you’ll have the opportunity to join an accountability pod in most major metros, where our students gather for real-life meetups and support. As you can see, we’re not just a program….but a massive network of high achievers.

We use a multi-pronged approach to turn our clients into expert daters.

Here’s how.

Community

No one wants to go through the dating process alone. So don’t. We have a community full of men just like you. To make being single suck less we set clients up with an accountability buddy so you can embark on this journey with someone who knows exactly what you’re going through. We’ll also introduce you to fellow clients in the NYC area so you can meet up in person and build an IRL community. Our community is great for sharing wins and losses, bonding, and getting real-time feedback on any dating question you might have.

Online Curriculum

We’ve learned a lot since we became men’s dating coaches 10+ years ago. To effectively teach everything we’ve learned, we created an online learning platform that covers just about every romantic topic under the sun. From how to nail a first date so she says yes to a second, to how to have better sex, if it’s something you’ll face while dating we have a lesson about it. This curriculum is self-paced and constantly being updated and added to.

Mock Dates

Wouldn’t it be amazing if after a date you could ask a woman what she thought and actually receive honest feedback? That’s where our mock dates come in. After a mock date (either online or IRL) you’ll receive feedback on what worked and what needs improvement.

Weekly Strategy Sessions

We know how dynamic and nuanced dating is. That’s why twice a week you’ll have the opportunity to get coaching & feedback directly from me (live, uninterrupted).

Bi-Weekly Man Cave

Our Man Cave event is led every other Thursday evening by our co-founder and coach Thomas Anthony. We know how difficult it is to be a single man. You’ve got a lot to deal with. Sometimes you just want a place to vent and share your frustrations with other men in your shoes. The Man Cave is a space where our clients can simply talk about what’s on their minds. They can share, empathize, and get in touch with other men in the same position. Men’s groups are proven to reduce isolation, frustration, depression, and loneliness.

We’ve worked with men from 18 to 80 years old. You can master dating at any age, as long as you’re willing to put in the hard work and have the right coaches to guide you. Our program is designed to help men of any and all ages, so long as they’re interested in finding a long-term partner.

Yes. We specialize in helping men meet and court women they meet online. 

We give unlimited profile reviews (at least one a month) as dating is an experiment, you’ll have to optimize as you go. Tweaking a profile every few weeks will help you appeal to the type of women you most want to attract.

We’re not about single sessions – we’re in it for the long haul. That means creating a meaningful and lasting transformation, not just dishing out some quick tips so you can get a couple more Tinder matches.

You tell me.

Do you have an ounce of hope and 30 minutes a day to put the work in?

Then yes, dating coaching will work for you.

Our most successful clients are open to trying new things and are coachable.

That may mean stepping out of your comfort zone. It means really listening and absorbing our advice and applying it over and over again.

Our techniques have worked for thousands of men, why wouldn’t they work for you too?

It all starts with a 20-min onboarding call Audrey or another member of our team.

During this call we’re going to get to know each other better and show you how to get the most from our program, Dating Decoded.

That means showing you how to access the weekly strategy sessions, gain access to our online community, and show you how to use our online learning platform.

Dating Decoded VIP is for clients that want a little extra help. When you sign up for our VIP program you’ll receive everything we’ve already touched and more.

Specifically, you’ll receive six 50-minute 1-on-1 sessions that can be used for the following:

• Mock dates with Brooke or Audrey
• 1-on-1 coaching with Emyli or Thomas
• Profile reviews with Audrey, Darshil, or Emyli (me)
• Style session with Hailey
• Social media optimization with Mia
• Confidence session or NYC strategy session with Darshil
• Anxiety session with Renee
• Sex & intimacy session with Tilly

   

Use these six sessions in whatever way you think would most benefit you.

That means if you want to go on six mock dates with our dating expert Brooke, go ahead and do so (just don’t fall in love!).

If this is the case, start by watching our program overview video first. For most men, watching this video is all it takes to determine if our program is the right fit for them.

You can also take a look at our brochure.

Click this magic link to schedule your intro call with a member of our team.