We’re just a few weeks into the new year and 95% of Americans have already failed to uphold their 2020 resolutions.

But fear not!

Just about everyone starts the year off slow and neglects their resolutions. Think of your first set of 2020 resolutions as a rough draft. You probably scribbled away a host of things you’d like to change in 2020. You have to hit the gym, start meditating, take up a new hobby, save more money, yada yada.

But after a few weeks, you’ve refused to take any steps towards your goals. This is because you’ve overburdened yourself with resolutions that you don’t truly care about. So now, let’s make a second and final draft of new year’s resolutions.

Clearly, if you’re reading this article, you have romantic goals that you’d like to address. But as you’ve already learned, resolutions will only be carried out if the resolutions are meaningful to the individual and if a specific roadmap to achievement is followed.

So Why is Changing Your Dating Life in 2020 Important to You?

This isn’t a question I can specifically answer but I have some theories.

If you’re a romantic you’d say that love is the most ecstatic feeling a human has the capacity of understanding. Another man might add that romantic love is crucial for one’s longterm mental health. Whatever your reason for finding a partner is, I’m damn sure it’s a valid one.

But before you begin your love quest, muse for a minute on why you want to find love.

Use this reasoning to imbue you with the motivation needed to accomplish your 2020 dating resolutions. Throughout the dating process, remind yourself why changing your dating habits is important to you. Ruminating on this resolution will help sustain the motivation you need to make lasting changes in your love life. But trying to fulfill a resolution with just motivation is like a motivated runner trying to run a marathon without properly training.

To run the marathon it takes to find love you’ve got to follow a specified blueprint. In this article, we’ll create a blueprint that will help you achieve your 2020 dating resolutions.

Tips For Reaching Your 2020 Dating Resolutions

Don’t Go Broke!

A Match.com survey found that on average men spend $1,855 a year on dating. And this figure doesn’t even include the clothes men purchase, the gym membership they sign up for, and the weekly haircuts the most metrosexual of men get every week. The $1,855 only includes money spent while on a date. Even if this number doesn’t seem exorbitant to you, take into account that this figure has more than doubled since the last survey.

This number also varies on where you’re located. Men in NYC, Seattle, and San Francisco spend considerably more than guys in Austin, Phoenix, and San Antonio.

So how do we reduce the cost of dating without resorting to taking all your dates to McDonald’s or Wendy’s?

Well, first let’s frame what a first date really is. It’s an opportunity for you to get to know a complete stranger (most likely) to find out if you two have any connection. The keyword here being stranger. That’s exactly what she is. So tell me, why in the world would you buy a complete stranger a $50 dinner? -not to mention commit to spending 2+ hours with this person.

If you adhere to the MegaDating blueprint you’d spend no more than one hour nor $10 on a first date. An hour is more than enough time to determine whether or not you’re into a woman. Think of first dates as protracted speed dates. You two get one drink, chat briefly, and then you’re on your way.

Now let’s address a concern I can already see formulating in your mind. How can I spend just one hour with this person without them being offended? Easy, you tell them in advance that you can only see them for an hour. If they say that an hour isn’t enough, then either move the date location closer to them so as not to inconvenience your date or tell her that you have a strict first date policy.

Explain why you only spend one hour on first dates and I guarantee she’ll understand, just be tactful with your explanation.

Go On At Least One Date A Week

If your dating resolution for 2020 is “finding love,” you’ll need to create a concrete blueprint that’ll help you achieve said goal. A measurable step you can take is to date at least one woman a week. Look I know what you’re thinking, “I haven’t gone on a date in months, how can I possibly manage to score a new date every single week?” Let me introduce you to date mining.

You haven’t realized it, but there are a few social channels that you can tap in order to mine dates. The most obvious stream is online dating. Whether you like it or not, many people are meeting their significant others via online dating. One study has found that up to 40% of new couples met via online dating. Sure it’s weird, but it’s how people date today so you best adapt.

Familiarizing yourself with dating apps can be daunting. If you’re an online dating newbie, there’s no reason to fret, we’ll be your wingman.

But don’t worry, you don’t solely need to bank on online dating to meet women.

Joining Meetup groups is a great way to meet like-minded individuals. To be clear, Meetup isn’t a dating app. It’s a social app used to bring people with shared interests together. Are you a lover of outdoor sports, billiards, or coding? There is a myriad of different groups that you can join on Meetup. We all want a partner that shares our interests, attending Meetups is a great way to meet that person.

Another way to quickly form a bond with someone is to go through the gauntlet together. Working together on a co-ed basketball or dodgeball team is a fun and swift way to form a connection. If you really want to bond with a teammate, join a Tough Mudder event.

If during the first game you realize that there are few single females on your team, don’t be disheartened.

Extending your social circle gives you the ability to network romantically. No doubt you’ll hang out with your teammates and opponents after sporting events. It’s here that you’ll be introduced to new friends and continue to grow your circle. If you’re close enough to your teammates, slyly offer up that you’re single and are looking for a partner. Without prompting they’ll scan through their list of single friends to see if they can set you up with someone.

These are all ideas to meet someone but just because you know how to meet women doesn’t mean you’ll do it.

For online dating, set notifications on your phone that will alert you to spend just 20 minutes each night swiping through potential suitors. For the Meetups and co-ed sports teams, join at least one of each and make sure you’re attending at least one event or game a week. You’ll need to hold yourself accountable, so team up with a friend or dating coach to ensure that you’re accomplishing your goals.

Eyes On Her

There are certain things that most single people playing the field hate. They dislike when a date arrives late, when she’s got rancid breath, or when your date chews with her mouth foul. But these are all pet peeves that we can look past. But there’s one pet peeve that all singles detest; checking your phone during a date.

30% of women say they won’t go on another date with a man if he incessantly checks his phone during the first date. Even checking your phone just a few times over the course of a 2-hour date can be a major blow to your chances of ever seeing her again.

When you discreetly look down at your crotch to check your phone you’re conveying that your date isn’t stimulating. And hey, if you can’t stimulate a date when the relationship is at its most novel, the relationship has zero chance of success. Checking your phone during a date isn’t making her a priority. If for some reason you absolutely must check your phone, warn your date prior or apologize profusely when it happens.

Before your next date, do what must be done and turn off your phone. Giving her your undivided attention will only increase the likelihood that you’ll see her again.

Enrich Existing Relationships

Finding love can be a full-time job.

Between swiping away and dating strangers it’s easy to forget about the people we care about most.

The reason the sexist “bros before hoes” line stands the test of time is because it hints at an inkling of truth. And that is, that our friends will outlast our romantic relationships. They’ve been there before past relationships started and they were there when relationships ended.

Never place all your emotional needs in one basket.

Whether that person is a romantic partner or not, leaning on one individual for your social needs is never a good idea. Maintain your social ecosystem while on the search for a partner. Imagine what were to happen if you neglected your friends for months while pursuing a woman only to be rejected by this woman? Would your friends open you with open arms? Would they console you in your time of need? Or would they mimic your behavior of recent and refuse to answer your texts and calls?

If need be, take a break from dating for a month in order to reinvigorate those relationships.

2020 is your year. I mean, why not? You’re equipped with motivation and a dating blueprint, what else could you need? Despite having all the tools you need to achieve your romantic resolutions, finding love can still be a rather complex puzzle. In order to solve it, you may need the help of someone that’s helped solve the puzzle of love for hundreds of men.

Book a 1-on-1 Skype session today to speak with Emyli, founder of emlovz. With Emyli’s help (she has an award winning 3 month coaching program) you two will create a dating plan that will help you achieve all your 2020 dating resolutions.