Do you want to attract gorgeous, high-quality women? Are you ready to find the girl of your dreams? Are you fed up with being relegated to the friendzone? If so, it’s time to make yourself more desirable. There are some qualities of a desirable man (10, to be exact) that significantly increase your chances of success in the dating world.
And no, you don’t have to be filthy rich or ridiculously good-looking in order for women to find you below.
Take a look below at the 10 desirable qualities of a desirable man and the ways you can be one of these men.
Qualities of a Desirable Man #1: Chivalry
Despite popular opinion, chivalry isn’t dead. However, it can be difficult to come by nowadays. Women are fed up with the laissez-faire attitude they often encounter in the dating world.
Instead of picking women up, holding the door open and treating her like a lady, many guys simply ask to “hang out” as opposed to asking women on a date and conveniently forget to do things like pull a chair out or offer her a jacket when it’s cold.
Don’t be one of those guys. Trust me when I say you will attract so many women simply by being chivalrous. You can showcase your amazingly chivalrous ways by doing the following:
- Hold the door open
- Pull a chair out for her
- Offer her your jacket if it’s cold
- Pay for the first three dates (psst…it won’t even cost you much at all if you follow my failproof dating blueprint)
- Respect her
- Plan compelling dates that have a clear TDL (time, date and location)
You can’t have love without trust. For this reason, it’s important that you are honest and authentic with women you date. Don’t try to be something your not. When using dating apps, don’t lie about things like height, age, and education. Just don’t lie at all. Women value honesty.
More importantly, being honest means that you can weed out anyone that wouldn’t like you for who you are. Being honest and authentic allows you to attract the most compatible partner.
They say to love someone else you must first love yourself and it’s true.
Women love a man who is confident. In fact, confidence can be way sexier than a great pair of abs, bulging biceps, and a huge bank account.
When you exude confidence, people (and of course women) respond positively.
A lot of guys make the mistake of thinking all women like “bad boys.” Moreover, many guys think that they will attract more women if they act like a jerk.
Acting like a jerk in order to attract more women is possibly the worst thing you could do. Maybe you’ll attract insecure women or those who lack maturity and like a challenge, but this will not lead to lasting love or any type of healthy relationship.
The reasons many men feel that being kind will be viewed as a weakness is because of the old adage about nice guys finishing last. However, the reasons self-proclaimed “nice guys” have a hard time attracting women has nothing to do with kindness at all.
Some guys who whine that they are nice and that’s why they don’t get women aren’t all that nice after all. Ask yourself:
- Do you feel like you are owed dates with gorgeous women because you’re nice?
- When with a woman you like, do you turn into a yes man, agreeing with everything she says in hopes that she’ll like you? Do you pretend to agree with her even when you don’t see eye to eye on a certain topic?
- Do you put down other guys in front of her because you think they’re jerks or feel intimidated by them?
- Do you refuse to pay for dates because you’ve decided that’s anti-feminist?
- When you like a girl, do you bombard her with texts, shower her with compliments and spend tons of money on her?
Newsflash: These behaviors don’t make you a nice guy. You’re coming off as desperate, clingy and disingenuous.
Be kind but also be strong. You can be a compassionate person and also disagree with someone. In fact, women like to be challenged. When a guy seems desperate or like a doormat, it’s a major turn-0ff.
So to ensure you have the important qualities in a man that women crave, make sure that kindness and confidence go hand-in-hand.
Women. Love. Humor.
I’ll say that again.
Woman. LOVE. Humor.
A man who knows his way around a joke and is witty can automatically make a girl swoon. Trust me on this. It’s really important that, in the dating world, you don’t take yourself too seriously and know how to laugh and have a good time.
Furthermore, laughter is healing. Enjoying a chuckle (or five) offers several health benefits, including:
- Stress relief
- Disease prevention
- Cures boredom
Playfulness is a very important part of building chemistry during the early stages of dating and also keeping your relationship solid. If you’re not confident in your sense of humor, consider taking an improv comedy class. Not only will improv comedy increase your confidence and help you think on your feet, you’ll learn some awesome games that you can actually use on a date?
Another way to enjoy a laugh with a girl you like without coming up with your own material is through funny quotes from TV, movies, or stand-up comedy. Bond over a funny movie, show, or stand-up comedian you like an say something like, “Remember the part where [insert really funny quote here]?”
No, you don’t need to be rich to nab a quality woman. However, you should have yourself together. That means you need to fix your finances before you start dating, have a job (or, if you’re in college, be well on your way to a degree and career pursuits), and be mentally on the up and up.
Don’t listen to what you’ve heard about women wanting to “fix” men. Some may find the whole bird-with-an-injured-wing thing appealing at first, but it gets old fast. All those nurturing instincts tend to dissipate when a guy can’t afford to go anywhere with you, makes you pay for everything or constantly bombards you with woe-is-me issues.
Sorry if that sounds harsh, but my job is to be honest. Stability is sexy. Take care of yourself first and then you’ll be ready to find a relationship.
It’s important that you have hobbies and pursuits that you are passionate about. A great relationship is one where you can both support and inspire each other.
Moreover, being passionate keeps you from getting stuck in a rut, whether that’s at work, socially or with hobbies.
If you don’t feel particularly passionate about anything right now, look at some new activities that appeal to you and try them out. Experiment with a hobby or, if you’re very unhappy at your job, look for a different one that seems more stimulating.
One of the most important things when it comes to having the qualities of a desirable man is maintaining your health. This doesn’t mean that you have to be ripped like a model or adopt a raw vegan diet, but you should pay close attention to what you eat as well as your activity level.
Exercise daily and eat a healthy, balanced diet. Doing these two things enhance your physical appearance. Automatically, this makes you attractive. But more importantly, you’ll feel better. And feeling good in your own skin harkens back to my point about confidence.
Also, one way to really escalate sexual tension when you’re dating someone is to partake in fun and physical activities together. Building your endurance through exercise allows you to experience a variety of different activities without getting exhausted or out of breath.
When women think about the qualities of a desirable man, they often picture someone who is attentive. This means practicing good eye contact and actively listening to them.
If you’re on a date, try to be present and focus on the person you’re talking to. Don’t allow nerves to keep you in your head or distract you. This makes you look like you aren’t engaged and can sabotage the evening.
Women don’t want a guy who is clingy. They also don’t want a guy who doesn’t have his own life and friends. Being independent and confident is going to greatly increase your desirability among women.
One way that you can greatly increase your independence in the dating world (and avoid becoming a stage-five clinger) is through MegaDating.
What is MegaDating?
MegaDating is a dating process that involves dating several women at a time in order to limit your anxiety by keeping your calendar full. MegaDating eases stress because, instead of chasing after a woman or getting hung up on “the one,” you see firsthand that there are plenty of fish in the sea.
This dating strategy encourages an abundance mindset, where there are endless opportunities before you. When you view the dating world as one of abundance, confidence increases, you’re able to behave more authentically, and things like rejection or a bad date aren’t so painful.
I used MegaDating as my main strategy during my 100-date experiment. It worked for me and it can work for you!
You Have the Qualities of a Desirable Man
Yes, you truly do have the qualities of a desirable man even if you don’t realize it. I’m here to help you unlock your inner desirability and attract the woman of your dreams.
If your ready to overcome your dating roadblocks and crush your goals, head over to my calendar and book a 1-on-1 Skype session with me today. During our session, we will create an action plan tailored specifically to your needs and personality.
For years, I’ve been helping men from all walks of life improve their confidence and find lasting love. I can’t wait to do the same for you.