In this job market, it feels as though even Cupid has been laid off.

Without the benevolent love fairy by your side, what are you to do?

It turns out Cupid isn’t the only love doctor around.

Dating coaches from coast to coast are standing by, waiting to fill the void your mythical love fairy has left behind.

Yet while most single men could benefit from a dating coach, not everyone is willing to hire one.

One reason they’re hesitant is the cost.

Singles will only dish out the cash for bonafide dating coaches that have a proven track record of helping their students find love. But even with a track record they still may be reluctant to pay a stranger to help them improve such a sensitive aspect of their life.

In this article, we’ll not only answer the question of how much should a dating coach cost but also give you the signs you need to look for when hiring one.

How Much Should A Dating Coach Cost?

It’s not about the cost of a dating coach, it’s about the price of love.

The price of a wife, a family, a future you’re satisfied with.

That’s what you’re getting when you hire a quality dating coach like us here at emlovz.

With that said, how much does love cost?

Prices vary greatly, but you can expect to pay the following:

Hourly: $50-200

Program Cost: $2,000-50,000

The price depends on a number of factors, including services provided, the coach’s history and reputation, target clientele, and location. We’ll dive into some of those determining factors now.

It’s About The Transformation

The worth of a dating coach is directly tied to their impact.

It’s not about the cost as much as the transformation.

I’m sure you’d pay the world to find love.

So what exactly should you be paying for when you hire a dating coach?

Dating coaches aren’t here to talk about your childhood feelings, we’re here to give you actionable, goal-oriented strategies to achieve real-life goals.

Therapists are great and they bill by the hour, but they have a different focus and their work with you is ongoing.

So let’s compare dating coaches to their most oft-compared counterpart; the therapist. 

It’s normal to meet with a counselor once a week for the rest of your life.

So if you’re paying a therapist $50-$150/week for the next 30 years, that’s going to add up.

And believe me, I love therapists.

I want my students to go to therapy.

Therapists are Gods in my book.

But they don’t do what dating coaches do.

A good coach, be it dating, fitness, nutrition, finance, any good coach creates a transformation in your belief system.

It’s like taking the red pill in the Matrix.

So when you’re trying to determine what to pay for a coach that you believe will transform a very important area of your life, don’t think about it by the hour.

That’s not what’s most important.

What would you pay to get the woman of your dreams, the body of your dreams, the home of your dreams, the clear skin of your dreams?

That’s how to think about it.

Questions to ask yourself before investing in a coach:

And what amount will hold you accountable to that vision that you have in your mind?

What investment do you need to make in yourself to get your ass out of bed in the morning when you want to sleep in?

What do you need to put forth to get yourself to do the hard work that is required to become a champion of whatever you’re looking to master?

That’s how you want to look at this investment.

This is an investment in you.

This is an investment in your future.

It’s an investment in what you believe you are worth.

Period.

So next time you try and break apart how much to pay a coach based on hours worked, reconsider.

And be wary of coaches who are working on an hourly rate because they probably haven’t yet mastered their craft enough to stand behind the transformations that they can truly create.

You should trust the coach that knows this. A coach who is new to the business or hasn’t learned that they’re in the business of transformation may charge around $100 an hour.

This is a sign that they’re new and may not have the expertise needed to help you transform your life.

This doesn’t mean they can’t help, it just means you’re probably going to get a band-aid fix.

True transformation is a 360-degree transformation.

One more thing. 

Are you really all in?

Your potential for transformation is only limited by your willingness to work. 

When I was in undergrad, the fear of failing out and having to pay back my student loans is what kept me up at night studying my ass off.

I did what I had to do and I pushed harder than I’ve ever had to push because the investment I made in myself (with student loans) was more than I could cover without the success of a college degree. And let me tell you something, Cal Berkeley wasn’t easy.

I thought I was going to fail every day but I kept pushing and kept pushing and never stopped because I’d made the commitment to myself and the investment in myself.

Success was my only option.

Make it yours too.

Don’t let yourself off the hook.

Consider How Much It Could Save You

Dating is a costly hobby.

According to a Lending Tree study, Americans spent an average of $77 on first dates in 2019.

In my program, I teach my students not to spend over $20 on a first date and no money at all on the second.

There are a few reasons for this:

• Saves money
• Frees up time to spend dating other women
• Helps avoid burnout
• Enables you to date various women without breaking the bank
• Helps avoid spending big money on a stranger

Based on my research, this is the most effective way to weed out women who are in it for the wrong reasons and it can help women to perceive you as high value.

Another financial consideration is how much you’ve already spent on choosing the wrong partners.

I have sudents who have been divorced and have had to pay out the nose for it.

Choosing the wrong partner can cost you everything.

Attracting a woman who takes more than she gives is another issue I see a lot and if you’re a people pleaser.

Mr. Nice Guy, it’s mission-critical that you learn how to receive as much as you give or you’ll be setting yourself up to be taken advantage of financially and emotionally.

How Many Lives Have They Changed?

How much should a dating coach cost should depend on how many peoples’ lives they’ve improved.

You should be looking for testimonials, case studies, and a paper trail of reviews.

There are a lot of coaches out there that promise you the moon but don’t even have a website, let alone a Google My Business or Yelp page.

This is a huge red flag.

Unless they’re upfront about being new to the industry, anyone promising you something that sounds too good to be true and who doesn’t have legit reviews and testimonials to back it up, shouldn’t be getting your hard-earned money.

If they don’t have a website or reviews, you should not be paying them more than $100/hour. In my opinion, paying for hourly sessions won’t get you anywhere. 

To make meaningful change you must be all in.

To make meaningful change you must burn the boats. 

Burning the boats means not allowing yourself to fail.

It means giving yourself one viable path, a path that leads towards your goal.

When Alexander The Great burned his boats after landing in Persia he told his men “We will either return home in Persian ships or we will die here.”

Signing up for one-hour classes means you can always hop on your boat and sail back home whenever you want to.

Burning the boats and not giving yourself the option to fail means signing up for a comprehensive course — that if studied diligently — will give you the skills you need to succeed.

And if they have changed lives, don’t just take their word for it, but read and watch reviews like this one.

How Did They Get Into The Business?

A dating coach must be passionate about YOU.

They have to have the motivation to truly help YOU.

Ask them to tell you about their most difficult student and how they were able to transform them.

Ask them about students who have failed in their program.

If they tell you that no one fails, then they haven’t worked with enough people to justify enrolling.

You want to know how they will support you if their system isn’t working for you. That’s important. If they can’t explain what they do when someone is struggling, don’t pay them over $100.

When asking for results, be sure to ask – nay, demand, to see testimonials.

Viewing testimonials is the best way to vet a dating coach. Here are a few other ways to spot a quality dating coach. 

Transformational Programs Cost What They’re Worth

That means paying 4 figures for a program.

If a coach is charging 4 or 5 figures for dating coaching, they should be well-established with a website, reviews pages (Yelp and Google, etc.), have a solid social media presence, and be able to put you in touch with past students.

Another boon these coaches should offer is lifetime access.

Yet sadly most don’t.

This is where emlovz answers the call.

My program isn’t the cheapest but I do believe it is the best if you’re a hard-working, successful man who is ready to find their forever person.

In my dating coaching program for men, you have:

• Access to me for life in my weekly coaching calls and private community
• Lifetime access to my extensive online curriculum 
• Access to me, a coach who has been in business for 10 years

I’m an established coach with a lifetime program that is available to you whenever you may need it. I have a long and ever-growing list of students you can talk to should you have questions about the program.

In my program, I give you the foundation you need to succeed in your dating life.

I offer full support for life so you’ve got an expert in your corner for as long as you need.

And, if you get into a relationship and don’t need me for a while, I’ll be right here when you do.

Dating Decoded, Your Transformational Coaching Program

So what will your money buy you if you team up with a high-quality dating coach?

Some coaches will willy-nilly throw together a program or just improv their client calls.

We at emlovz have gone a different route.

Via the four learning pathways, we’ve created a comprehensive program that addresses every aspect of modern dating.

First, here how you’ll learn:

• Online Curriculum – The bulk of your learning takes place here where you can learn at your own pace and access material that helps you develop and refine your dating chops
• Live Sessions – Twice a week we’ll get together to address your dating concerns. Here you can ask questions as we dive into your dating life and help overcome dating obstacles
• Online Community – Join a community full of men just like you. In our community you’ll meet friends, find support, and integrate into a community
• Mock Dates – Before dating in the real world, refine your skills on a mock date with one of our specialists

These four learning pathways show how you’ll learn, now let’s find out what you’ll learn.

Pillar 1: MegaDating

Our program is broken up into four pillars, and it all begins with MegaDating.

About a decade ago, our founder, Emyli, went on 100 dates in a year to find love. This social experiment was the genesis of emlovz. She now uses what she’s learned to help students quickly find love. When you MegaDate you’ll learn to mine social channels in order to date various women at the same time. Because there’s no better way to quickly meet the women of your dreams than to get out there and date prolifically.

But how will you find all these women?

Pillar 2: The Perfect Profile

The majority of relationships nowadays start online. This is why we dedicate so much of our program to helping men meet their next girlfriends online. Of course, we also teach men how to meet women IRL, however, we place a special emphasis on meeting women online.

This is why the second pillar of our program is all about creating the perfect dating profile.

The online dating scene is the most competitive romantic coliseum known to man.

For every female Tinder user there are 9 male users. This is why we invest so much in helping our students create high-performing profiles that outcompete 90% of other users.

You’ll learn how to take amazing photos, which photos to use, and how to present yourself in a way that connects with compatible women.

Pillar 3: MegaMessaging + Date Pitch

Scoring a match is great and all, but that’s just the first step in a romantic dance that is as complex as it is fickle.

We’ll teach you how to send opening messages that receive responses and how to steer a conversation toward a TDL. A TDL is the only right way to ask a woman out. It stands for time, date, and location.

Be sure to include this information AND ask her on a date that is brief, close to her home or place of work, takes place midweek and of course is something you know she’ll enjoy.

Pillar 4: Date Blueprint

The earliest stage of a relationship is the most precarious.

One wrong move could mean the end of your fledgling love affair.

When we team up you’ll learn how to craft (and behave) on the first three dates. Follow our advice and you’ll soon be in a loving and lasting relationship with a women you’re compatible with.

I hope this article helped you answer your question of “how much should a dating coach cost?”

A solid coach with a great program will cost you over 4 figures. Stay away from coaches who offer single sessions — those are hardly transformational.

Next Steps

We teach our students the shortcut to finding their ideal match by MegaDating. MegaDating is our dating philosophy and it shapes everything we teach here at emlovz. Simply put MegaDating is dating prolifically with the specific goal of going on 20 dates in 90 days. This will give you ample women to compare and contrast so you can refine not only your dating skills but also who your ideal partner is.

To teach you how to quickly find highly compatible women in just weeks and become the most eligible bachelor in town you’ll team up with romantic experts, each skilled in their own unique area to support you.

Our Team

• Emyli (me), co-founder, curriculum developer, head coach, and I host two coaching sessions every week
• Thomas, co-founder, and coach. He’ll lead the biweekly Man Cave event where men come together to talk dating, bond with one another, and support other single men
• Cat, Brooke, and Audrey are mock date specialists. Go on a practice date with them (and receive feedback) before your next date
• Hailey is your new stylist. She’s worked with celebs from every industry and is now about to raid your closet
• Tilly is our holistic sex & intimacy coach. She’ll help you get the most out of your sex life so you and your partner are happier between the sheets
• Aundrea is an award-winning fitness coach. Are you ready to eat right and build muscle?
• Mia is our social media expert. Revamp your Facebook and Instagram profiles with her help and start meeting women online

Our Community

And look, we realize that the single life can be difficult. If accepted into our coaching program, Dating Decoded, you’d be joining a community of supportive men and coaches who are there to listen, support, and encourage you as you navigate the single life.

Our program offers every student a lifetime membership (as if you’ll need it) so the support won’t stop until you’ve found your ideal partner.

If you’re ready to find your forever partner, book a Zoom session with our team today. Together we’ll talk about your dating history, your goals and show you how our program, Dating Decoded, can help you find your ideal partner.

Learn how our students have already improved their dating lives.