Dating in Raleigh: The Best Dating Apps and Matchmakers
Take a second to muse on the best cities for singles in the US.
Most likely your mind will fantasize about the sultry clubs of Miami full of voluptuous women and reggaeton or the plastic paradise that is LA.
While you wouldn’t be wrong in categorizing these two cities as single havens, there’s one super underrated city that arguably bests the pair.
To be honest, just a decade ago Raleigh, NC wasn’t on anyone’s radar.
That’s changed as of recent.
Thanks to rapid growth and a vibrant singles scene, Raleigh is now one of the most happening places to be single… if you’re a guy (more on that disparity later).
Considering the swift singles revolution that’s taken place in Raleigh it’s about time that we dig into the dating and matchmaking scene in Raleigh, NC.
Dating in Raleigh
Why Raleigh Is Epic for Single Men?
Raleigh is one of the most gender lopsided cities in the states.
How lopsided are we talking about?
There are between 1,100 to 1,200 single females between the ages of 35-44 for every 1,000 single males within the same age bracket.
For this age bracket, this makes Raleigh one of the most female-leaning singles cities in the states.
But what if you’re looking for a younger woman?
Of all the single women in the city, 58% of them are between the ages of 18 and 34. This is the highest percentage in all of NC.
If you’re a man living in Raleigh you struck gold. Many a metro area has a lopsided gender disparity, though few favor women over men. 95% of metros have more men than women. This means that there are a paltry 13 metros across the entire nation where there are more women in the 20-34 age group than men.
Other NC metro areas where women outnumber men are Burlington and Greenville. The former is just an hour outside of Raleigh while that latter is an hour twenty away from Raleigh. If combined these three metro areas might just create the most female-leaning area in the entire US.
It’s good to be a single man in central North Carolina.
High-Quality Dating Scene
According to a few metrics, Raleigh is a quality place to be single.
In 2012, Men’s Health took it upon itself to find the cities with the most eligible women in the US.
Their metrics took into account such factors as: “the ratio of single women to single men, the percentage of college-educated women, the percentage of gainfully employed single women (all from the Census), and the number who work out (Experian Simmons).”
They ultimately found that Washington D.C. had the most eligible women in America. On the flip side, Vegas came in 100th place and were handed the grade of F.
Raleigh however, came in at 8th place with a grade of a B+.
The score isn’t surprising once you realize that Raleigh’s men enjoy a favorable gender imbalance, that the city ranked #1 on Glassdoor’s list of the cities with the best jobs in 2015, that despite being a major tech hub the city is still affordable, that it’s the second most educated city in the states, and that the weather is never too hot nor too cold.
WalletHub also gave the city high marks.
Every year the personal finance website compiles a list of the best and worst cities for singles in America. In this year’s edition Raleigh, NC came in at 39 out of 182 cities. Each city was ranked based on scores in three categories. Raleigh’s highest score came from the “Fun & Recreation” category.
Metrics taken into account to determine the city’s rank for this category were its number of attractions, parks per capita, restaurants per capita, wellness center per capita, walkability, weather, and safety among others.
By all accounts, Raleigh is an underrated singles hub.
With this in mind, it should be rather easy to score a date. So when you do ultimately ask out the woman you met at Tinder or the fox you chatted up at the gym, where should you go?
Best First Date Ideas In Raleigh
At emlovz we advise clients to do first dates differently.
By differently we don’t mean spending $75 like the average man does.
Here’s the thing about splashing the cash on a first date. The person sitting across from you is most likely a stranger. Matching and exchanging a few messages online is probably the entirety of your relationship thus far. This means that when it comes time to meet up, before their ass even hits the cushion you might know that this person isn’t right for you. If this is the case why sign up for a date that will last countless hours and result in a ton of money being spent?
First dates should last no longer than an hour. When it comes to money, no more than $10 should be spent. Adhering to these guidelines will save you time, money, and potentially your sanity.
With that in mind, here are a few exciting first date ideas in Raleigh, NC.
Mountain bike or take a leisurely stroll through Umstead State Park. Being that the park is on the skirts of the city, make sure it’s a convenient enough first date location. Pitching a date idea that takes place too far away from her place of work or home, or occurs at an odd hour is likely to be turned down.
Grab an afterword happy hour brew at Trophy Brewing. Be sure to hit Trophy up in the Spring or Summer as they have a palatial outdoor and rooftop area. This is the perfect after-work date idea because it’s centric and isn’t too normal nor too odd of a first date idea. If you’re worried about spending more than an hour at the brewery, simply inform her beforehand that you have a prior engagement and will have to leave at a specified time. That being said you really want to meet her and can’t wait to sip on some craft beer with her.
A chocolate tour followed by some of the best damn chocolate you’ve ever had is a pretty solid first date. That’s just the experience you’ll get when you visit the Videri Chocolate Factory located in the heart of the Depot Historic District.
Best Dating Apps in Raleigh
I recommend that all my clients are active on five dating apps.
Know that each app is different not only in how it works but the type of single milieu that it attracts. Download apps that will help you meet the women you want to meet.
With that in mind here are three apps that you should 100% download almost regardless of your age or the type of woman you’re looking for.
Tinder is the most popular dating app in NC. Now I know that Tinder is chiefly used by college students, but that doesn’t mean you can’t use it to your advantage. If you’re looking to date an older woman simply change your search preferences.
Bumble is what Tinder users graduate to once they’ve had enough of the hookups. Bumble is known as the feminist version of Tinder and as such attracts a more mature and socially conscious user.
Hinge is the preferred app of my clients. Its catchphrase, “the dating app designed to be deleted” is manifested in its many features from limited likes to its most compatible feature.
Download these apps and consider adding others such as Happn, Facebook Dating, The League, Coffee Meets Bagel, and Match to your online dating arsenal.
Matchmaking In Raleigh
Just because Raleigh is crawling with single females doesn’t mean men can easily score a date.
On the flip side, with a limited number of single men available in Raleigh it can be much difficult for my ladies to find a suitable match.
Perhaps you haven’t dated in a while and the current dating scene is too foreign to grasp. Or maybe you just don’t have time to swipe through thousands of women in order to find someone compatible. Whatever the case may be I have a solution for you.
At emlovz we specialize in coaching and matchmaking.
Our matchmaking process is designed to find you 6-12 compatible matches in your area.
So how do we do this?
Unlike other dating services, we don’t rely on singles already in our database. Many a matchmaker will only set clients up with other clients. This is fairly limiting.
This is why we employ our team of e-recruiters and matchmakers to comb through your city looking for compatible matches. From an initial list of 100-200 women, we’ll ultimately narrow it down to 6-12.
Before setting you up we’ll put each candidate through an in-depth interview to ascertain that you two are right for each other.
After this, it’s time to date.
Before and after each date — you’ll team up with your emlovz matchmaker to discuss what needs to be done to make the date successful and what can be improved upon so you can ace the next one.
We also realize that not everyone immediately wants to be set up with the person of his dreams. Someone that hasn’t dated in a while might feel like meeting a hyper compatible person is a waste if his dating skills are sub-par.
We want to equip you with the dating skills you need to make the most out of your matches. It’s for this reason that we offer 12 coaching sessions over the space of 12 weeks. Clients have the option of undergoing private or group sessions.
2021 is a new year, and as The Zombies would croon, “this will be our year.” It took a long time to come but by teaming up with a professional you can turn your dating fortunes around.
Book a 1-on-1 Zoom session with me or one of my coaches today so that we can begin creating a tailo-rmade dating blueprint that works for you. We’ll discuss your goals, create a strategy, and determine if our coaching or matchmaking services are right for you.