Take a second to muse on the best cities for singles in the US.

Most likely your mind will fantasize about the sultry clubs of Miami full of voluptuous women and reggaeton or the plastic paradise that is LA.

While you wouldn’t be wrong in categorizing these two cities as single havens, there’s one super underrated city that arguably bests the pair.

To be honest, just a decade ago Raleigh, NC wasn’t on anyone’s radar.

That’s changed as of recent.

Thanks to rapid growth and a vibrant singles scene, Raleigh is now one of the most happening places to be single… if you’re a guy (more on that disparity later).

Considering the swift singles revolution that’s taken place in Raleigh it’s about time that we dig into the dating scene in Raleigh, NC.

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Just because Raleigh is crawling with single females doesn’t mean men can easily score a date.

Women aren’t going to settle for just any guy, especially one that posts bathroom selfies on their Bumble.

It’s true that the deep dating pool works to your advantage but only if you know how to fish.

That’s where emlovz comes in.

We don’t catch fish but rather teach men how to reel one in on their own.

We do so using our four pillars.

MegaDating

MegaDating is our dating philosophy. This philosophy urges men to date as many women as possible.

Dating a large pool of women will open your eyes up to the many possibilities. The best way to meet your ideal partner is to date around. A less proactive approach encourages settling for the first woman that swipes your way.

By meeting a variety of women you’ll begin to understand your ideal type, never settle, and compare and contrast possible partners ultimately picking someone super compatible.

But dating various women a week isn’t easy.

It requires a dedication to proactively tapping social channels in order to find these women.

One channel we specialize in is online dating.

Profile Creation

39% of all romantic heterosexual relationships in 2019 started online.

Online dating is easy, active, and has a well of single ladies ready to chat it up.

But they’re picky.

And why shouldn’t they be?

Men outnumber women on Tinder 9-1. On Bumble they’re outnumbered 7 to 3.

It’s for this reason women receive 5x more likes than men (and that’s a conservative estimate).

To stand out you need to create a bomb profile, one that shoots fireworks every time a woman views it.

Luckily we can show you how.

MegaMessaging

A match isn’t everything -in a very real sense, it’s nothing.

A match isn’t a guaranteed date, it’s not even a guarantee she’ll message you.

To pivot your match into a real date you’ll have to engage in some smooth talking.

This is where most men go wrong.

They’ll message hey, hey cutie, hey sexy, or some other banal hey message and never receive a response.

Starting the conversation is the most difficult part. If she responds to your first message, it’s likely she’ll respond to the second and third as well.

So what should you message her?

I’ll teach you in my program, Dating Decoded.

But in the meantime base what you write on her profile. Comment on a photo a hobby she’s written about or simply ask her a question about something she wrote about on her profile.

In other words, talk about something you know she wants to talk about.

Dating Blueprint

Once you’ve used a TDL or asked for her number it’s time to schedule a first date.

First dates should be short, sweet, and cheap ($20).

Second dates should be free and active.

If she’s lucky enough to make it to a third date show her how awesome she is by taking her out on a night she’ll never forget.

The first there dates are paramount to your romantic future. One wrong move could result in never seeing her again or worse, being ghosted.

We’ll teach you the ins and outs of the first three dates so you quickly build attraction, chemistry, and decide if she’s worth investing in.

Dating in Raleigh

Why Raleigh Is Epic for Single Men?

Raleigh is one of the most gender-lopsided cities in the states.

How lopsided are we talking about?

There are between 1,100 to 1,200 single females between the ages of 35-44 for every 1,000 single males within the same age bracket.

For this age bracket, this makes Raleigh one of the most female-leaning singles cities in the states.

But what if you’re looking for a younger woman?

Of all the single women in the city, 58% of them are between the ages of 18 and 34. This is the highest percentage in all of NC.

If you’re a man living in Raleigh you struck gold. Many a metro area has a lopsided gender disparity, though few favor women over men. 95% of metros have more men than women. This means that there are a paltry 13 metros across the entire nation where there are more women in the 20-34 age group than men.

Other NC metro areas where women outnumber men are Burlington and Greenville. The former is just an hour outside of Raleigh while the latter is an hour twenty away from Raleigh. If combined these three metro areas might just create the most female-leaning area in the entire US.

It’s good to be a single man in central North Carolina.

High-Quality Dating Scene

According to a few metrics, Raleigh is a quality place to be single.

In 2012, Men’s Health took it upon itself to find the cities with the most eligible women in the US.

Their metrics took into account such factors as: “the ratio of single women to single men, the percentage of college-educated women, the percentage of gainfully employed single women (all from the Census), and the number who work out (Experian Simmons).”

They ultimately found that Washington D.C. had the most eligible women in America. On the flip side, Vegas came in 100th place and were handed the grade of F.

Raleigh however, came in at 8th place with a grade of a B+.

The score isn’t surprising once you realize that Raleigh’s men enjoy a favorable gender imbalance, that the city ranked #1 on Glassdoor’s list of the cities with the best jobs in 2015, that despite being a major tech hub the city is still affordable, that it’s the second most educated city in the states, and that the weather is never too hot nor too cold.

WalletHub also gave the city high marks.

Every year the personal finance website compiles a list of the best and worst cities for singles in America. In this year’s edition Raleigh, NC came in at 39 out of 182 cities. Each city was ranked based on scores in three categories. Raleigh’s highest score came from the “Fun & Recreation” category.

Metrics taken into account to determine the city’s rank for this category were its number of attractions, parks per capita, restaurants per capita, wellness center per capita, walkability, weather, and safety among others.

By all accounts, Raleigh is an underrated singles hub.

With this in mind, it should be rather easy to score a date. So when you do ultimately ask out the woman you met at Tinder or the fox you chatted up at the gym, where should you go?

Best First Date Ideas In Raleigh

At emlovz we advise clients to do first dates differently.

By differently we don’t mean spending $75 like the average man does.

Here’s the thing about splashing the cash on a first date. The person sitting across from you is most likely a stranger. Matching and exchanging a few messages online is probably the entirety of your relationship thus far. This means that when it comes time to meet up, before their ass even hits the cushion you might know that this person isn’t right for you. If this is the case why sign up for a date that will last countless hours and result in a ton of money being spent?

First dates should last no longer than an hour. When it comes to money, no more than $10 should be spent. Adhering to these guidelines will save you time, money, and potentially your sanity.

With that in mind, here are a few exciting first date ideas in Raleigh, NC.

Mountain bike or take a leisurely stroll through Umstead State Park. Being that the park is on the skirts of the city, make sure it’s a convenient enough first date location. Pitching a date idea that takes place too far away from her place of work or home, or occurs at an odd hour is likely to be turned down.

Grab an afterword happy hour brew at Trophy Brewing. Be sure to hit Trophy up in the Spring or Summer as they have a palatial outdoor and rooftop area. This is the perfect after-work date idea because it’s centric and isn’t too normal nor too odd of a first date idea. If you’re worried about spending more than an hour at the brewery, simply inform her beforehand that you have a prior engagement and will have to leave at a specified time. That being said you really want to meet her and can’t wait to sip on some craft beer with her.

A chocolate tour followed by some of the best damn chocolate you’ve ever had is a pretty solid first date. That’s just the experience you’ll get when you visit the Videri Chocolate Factory located in the heart of the Depot Historic District.

Best Dating Apps in Raleigh

I recommend that all my clients are active on five dating apps.

Know that each app is different not only in how it works but the type of single milieu that it attracts. Download apps that will help you meet the women you want to meet.

With that in mind here are three apps that you should 100% download almost regardless of your age or the type of woman you’re looking for.

Tinder is the most popular dating app in NC. Now I know that Tinder is chiefly used by college students, but that doesn’t mean you can’t use it to your advantage. If you’re looking to date an older woman simply change your search preferences.

Bumble is what Tinder users graduate to once they’ve had enough of the hookups. Bumble is known as the feminist version of Tinder and as such attracts a more mature and socially conscious user.

Hinge is the preferred app of my clients. Its catchphrase, “the dating app designed to be deleted” is manifested in its many features from limited likes to its most compatible feature.

Download these apps and consider adding others such as Happn, Facebook Dating, The League, Coffee Meets Bagel, and Match to your online dating arsenal.

Just because Raleigh is crawling with single females doesn’t mean men can easily score a date.

On the flip side, with a limited number of single men available in Raleigh it can be much difficult for my ladies to find a suitable match.

Perhaps you haven’t dated in a while and the current dating scene is too foreign to grasp. Or maybe you just don’t have time to swipe through thousands of women in order to find someone compatible. Whatever the case may be I have a solution for you.

Book a 1-on-1 Zoom session with me or one of my coaches today so that we can begin creating a tailor-made dating blueprint that works for you. We’ll discuss your goals, create a strategy, and determine if our coaching or services are right for you.