Day: June 15, 2022

16 Qualities of a Good Woman You Need to Look For

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I spend a lot of time advising men on the various ways they can find lasting love. I talk about positives changes to be made and the various dos and don’ts. But for this article, it’s time to put women in the hot seat. More importantly, what are the characteristics- or qualities of a good woman?

You know, a woman you want to settle down and have a full life with? When you’re out and about, dating women concurrently (otherwise known as MegaDating), keep an eye out for these qualities.

Qualities of a Good Woman

#1: Independence

A quality woman is an independent woman. There are many benefits of dating an independent woman, such as:

-She can introduce you to a variety of new activities and experiences

-She’s not clingy

-Independent women tend to be less prone to jealousy

-They’re more honest

-They don’t play games

-They are less worried about what you do on your free time

Quality #2: Honest

You can’t have love without trust, which is why it’s important you date someone who is honest. A quality woman is an honest woman.

Quality #3: Smart

No, she doesn’t have to be Einstein or hold five advanced degrees. However, it’s important that you find someone who is intelligent.

When you date a smart woman, you’ll notice that you can enjoy deeper and more stimulating conversations. Moreover, a smart woman is going to know what she wants and is less likely to be interested in playing immature games with you.

Quality #4: Kind

Don’t date a mean girl. Kindness and compassion are important in any relationship. When you’re looking for a quality woman, focus on women who are good friends and treat people with empathy.

Even the best relationships experience highs and lows. You want to find a woman who can show you kindness during your less than flattering moments and empathize with you.

Quality #5: Accepting of Flaws

Nobody is perfect. We all have flaws and it’s important to find a quality woman who is accepting of all parts of you.

Moreover, you definitely want to avoid women who attempt to change you. Although we should all strive to be the best versions of ourselves, a relationship with someone who wants to alter characteristics that are fundamental to your personality is no good.

Quality #6: Supportive

An ideal relationship is one where you and the person you are with truly feel like partners. That means supporting each other. Whether it’s a career change, a new hobby, or a hard time you’re trying to work through, you should find a quality woman who supports you during these times.

Quality #7: She Avoids Drama

The last thing you want is to date a woman who lives for drama.

These are the girls who are constantly engaging in gossip, playing mind games with guys and bemoaning a laundry list of issues that they deal with on a daily basis.

Don’t exhaust yourself by engaging with these types of women. A quality woman is one who avoids drama.

Quality #8: Confidence

For both men and women, confidence is one of the most attractive qualities you can have.

It’s important that you date a woman who is confident. When someone is confident, they possess a sense of self-worth that makes it easy to be emotionally available. A confident woman isn’t one who is going to try and make you chase after her, initiate arguments or attempt to take advantage of you financially.

Moreover, a confident woman knows exactly what she wants and goes for it. She isn’t going to get irrationally jealous or try to control everything you do.

Quality #9: She Knows How to Communicate

Communication is key to a happy, long-lasting relationship. A quality woman is one who knows how to communicate. She’s able to tell you when she has an issue instead of bottling things up and/or making passive aggressive comments.

Quality #10: She’s Not the Jealous Type

If you notice signs of jealousy, consider this a big red flag.

Remember how I said you can’t have love with trust? Well, if a woman is a jealous type, she’s going to have trouble trusting you. And you don’t even have to do a single thing for her to question you and fly into a jealous fit.

People who are jealous tend to be very insecure. This doesn’t bode well for a relationship. Sometimes people become jealous due to a bad breakup where they got cheated on, past issues or a fear of intimacy.

Whatever the reason, it’s important that this person deals with those issues before getting into a relationship. If the woman you’re dating has issues with jealous, don’t ignore it. A quality woman is one who doesn’t get jealous without a reason or is one who is willing to admit her issues and work through them.

Quality #11: She’s All About Compromise

There’s an old anecdote about how women are always right and always win arguments.

But the truth is, a quality woman is one who is willing to compromise. A healthy relationship isn’t about competition and seeing who can outwit the other when it comes to disagreements. Arguments can actually make your relationship stronger if you’re able to work through your issues and find common ground.

Find a woman who is all about compromise. And in return, be sure that you are able to meet her halfway as well.

Quality #12: She Takes Pride in Her Appearance

No, looks aren’t everything. And more importantly, you don’t want to date someone who is superficial or obsessed with appearance.

However, both you and the woman you date should take pride in your appearance. This means exercising and eating a balanced diet. Not only will you look your best when you do these things, but you’ll feel your best.

Taking pride in your appearance increases self-esteem and opens you up to a variety of possibilities when it comes to dates and bonding as a couple. I always recommend making a date more compelling by making it physical and fun. Find a quality woman who can get fit and adventure with you.

Quality #13: Humor

Laugh it up! A quality woman has a sense of humor.

Playfulness is an important part of any relationship. Finding someone who you can laugh with strengthens your connection and makes it easier to be vulnerable.

Quality #14: Down-to-Earth

You want to find a woman with a good head on her shoulders. As I said, it’s important for a woman to take pride in her appearance, but you don’t want someone who is materialistic.

A down-to-earth woman is one who lives her life authentically. You don’t have to constantly guess what she’s thinking or worry about her getting super dramatic. She also has realistic expectations and isn’t going to expect you to be perfect. A down-to-earth woman is also one who is able to not take herself so seriously and is understanding.

Qualities of a Good Woman #15: Passionate

Find a woman who is passionate. A passionate woman is someone who is willing to take risks if it means personal growth and achieving her goals. Being passionate goes hand-in-hand with being independent.

When you date a passionate woman, you will become inspired. A passionate woman will support you when it comes to your dreams and the two of you can take on projects together that you are passionate about.

Dating someone who is passionate also prevents your relationship from getting stale or the two of you falling into a rut of doing the same thing all the time (i.e., order takeout, watch Netflix and repeat).

Qualities of a Good Woman #16: She Knows When To Delete Her Dating Apps

Have you been dating a woman for two or three months and noticed she still hasn’t deleted her dating apps? Even worse, have you recently seen that little green light illuminated in her OkCupid profile?

If you’re now official (or getting close to it) with a woman you’ve been dating for a couple months, she should naturally delete her dating apps. If you’ve caught her online or thumbing through Tinder, have an adult discussion with her. Use an I statement like this:

You: I noticed your Tinder account opened while you left your phone on the butcher block last night. It hurt my feelings because we just started talking about getting into a monogamous relationship.

Her: I’m sorry you feel that way. I was actually logging on to figure out how to delete Tinder. In fact, I’m in the process of deleting all my dating apps.

You: That makes me feel so happy. I didn’t mean to pry — your phone was right next to the fridge while I was looking for a late night snack.

Want to Increase Your Chances of Meeting a Quality Woman?

There is one strategy you can use to greatly increase your chances of meeting the quality woman of your dreams. It’s called MegaDating. It’s a healthy strategy you can use if you want to find a girlfriend soon, or even think you need one.

What is MegaDating

MegaDating is a dating strategy that involves dating several people at the same time in order to diffuse energy by keeping your calendar full.

This dating process shows you firsthand that there are plenty of fish in the sea, which allows you to approach the romantic landscape with an abundance mindset.

Rather than get hung up on the idea of “the one” or chase after women who ultimately friendzone you, MegaDating allows you to take your time and enjoy getting to know a variety of interesting people.

Because of all this, you avoid settling for the mediocre. As you get to know different women, you’ll also learn more about yourself. And the more you date, the better you will get at it. As your confidence increases, you will attract more and more quality women, ultimately leading you to a long-term compatible partner.

During my 100-date experiment, I used MegaDating as my main dating strategy. It worked for me and it can work for you too!

Find a Quality Woman: Hire a Dating Coach (Hint: Us)

MegaDating informs our entire dating philosophy. We believe being proactive is the best way to meet compatible women. Sitting back and letting the universe find someone for you isn’t working. Our practical approach involves meeting dozens of women in order to find a super compatible partner.

But how do I meet so many women?

In our program, Dating Decoded we teach men how to meet women IRL and online.

Two pillars of our course are wholly dedicated to getting the most out of online dating.

Why two pillars?

Because online dating is the easiest and most popular way to meet romantic prospects.

It’s for this reason we have two portions of our class dedicated to creating an amazing profile and effectively conversing with women online.

We’ll teach you how to create a top-performing profile that is guaranteed to get matches.

But a profile is only good if you know how to chat with women and pivot away from dating apps. That’s why we teach men how to quickly build chemistry online before asking for a number or using a TDL to transition to an IRL dynamic.

The last portion of our program focuses on the first three dates.

It’s at this point that your new relationship is at its most fragile. To make sure you’re building attraction we’ve created a blueprint for the first three dates.

Our program is comprehensive both in topics covered as well as methodology.

We teach the aforementioned keys to romance via:

Online Curriculum
Online Community
Mock Dates
2 Weekly Strategy Sessions

Our program slowly guides you through every aspect of modern dating.

We teach you the basics of online dating, flirting, asking women out, building chemistry, and more.

Let’s learn more about each other via a private Zoom call. Together we’ll discuss your dating goals and how we can help you achieve them.

12 Best Breakup Texts To Send Her That’ll End An Early-Stage Relationship

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Looking for a list of tried and tested breakup texts?

The only way you’ll find the right relationship is by getting out of a bad one.

Well, perhaps not bad per se, but certainly, one that needs ending.

But to do so you’ll have to break up with her.

It’s this gut-wrenching process that sees men stay in fledgling relationships much longer than they should. The distress caused by the thought of breaking up is enough to buy their new flame a few more weeks to turn things around.

To end things when you know a long-term relationship is impossible you’ll need to have a text or two in your breakup tool kit that will let her down easy.

A brief breakup text that’s respectful and to the point is the best breakup method you have.

To help you exit an early-stage relationship with class, use one of these breakup texts.

Break Up Texts to Send Her

Can I Break Up With Her Via Text?

Ya damn, right you can.

Everyone nowadays breaks up via text.

Well maybe not everyone, but according to CreditLoan 33% of millennials have ended a relationship via text.

As a general rule, the longer the relationship the more intimate the method of a breakup should be.

For example, if you’ve only gone on a few dates with someone, a text message is normally considered permissible.

Hell, if you’ve only gone out with someone once or twice, even ghosting is acceptable.

The reason people tend to end a serious relationship in-person is that doing so allows the snubbed an easier route to recovery. Being present allows for a dialogue to take place. After dating someone for a few months, they’ll have plenty of questions to ask should they feel blindsided. Breaking up in person gives them the chance to ask questions and bring finality to the relationship.

That being said, this isn’t needed for a woman you’ve only seen a few times.

In fact, breaking up over the phone or in person could even make things worse.

So instead, take out that phone of yours and get ready to type out one of these messages.

#1 Best Breakup Texts To Send Her

It’s straightforward, brief, and is pretty clear.

But it’s not these qualities that I like most.

It leaves the door open to transition the relationship.

After sending this I’d wait for a response.

If one isn’t forthcoming you can offer to pivot the relationship.

You can follow up with:

“That being said I’d still like to see you. How would you feel just having fun with no strings attached?”

This message paves the way for a FWB relationship to take place.

Being straight with her is the best way to pivot a relationship. Dating her will send the wrong message. Instead, be honest with her and ask her point-blank if she wants to change the dynamic of the relationship.

#2 Compatibility Error

We often tend to obsess over why it went wrong.

We ask what we could’ve done to salvage things.

But sometimes it isn’t about what you did wrong, you two just weren’t compatible.

It’s this point that you need to drive home so she doesn’t feel bad for weeks on end. It’s inevitable her confidence will crash. Make this crash a bit more manageable by giving her a reason.

The best reason you can give is, we’re just not compatible.

Be sure to always let it be known that you enjoyed the time you spent with this person (if it’s true). Doing so lets them know that there’s nothing wrong with them, sometimes people just don’t connect, and that’s perfectly fine.

Wishing them luck in their endeavors is a classy way to turn the page and move on to another relationship. It’s also a sly way to end the conversation. The final sentence makes it very clear that you don’t intend on seeing this person anymore or even corresponding with them via text.

It’s over.

Period.

#3 The Friend-Zone Text

The tone of this text is super platonic — and that’s the point.

Starting any convo with the person’s name followed by an exclamation point is a sign of good things to come.

Perhaps this isn’t the news she wanted to hear, but it could be worse.

Just because you don’t want to see her romantically doesn’t mean you want the relationship to end. As the text says, this person really enjoyed their time together and makes it abundantly clear they don’t want to stop seeing this person.

But they do make it clear they won’t be hanging out romantically in the future.

Not only is there an explicit request to be friends but an explicit request to still see each other this Friday.

#4 Ghosting Is For, Well, Ghosts

Let’s break this text down sentence by sentence.

Hey Jen.

Always start with her name. Doing so grabs her attention and shows a level of respect.

Thanks for seeing me yesterday.

If you genuinely mean this, say it. She went out of her way to meet up with a relative stranger. Show your gratitude by both paying for the date and thanking her.

I think you’d agree that we’re not 100% romantically compatible.

This is when the bomb drops. This message makes it be known that you don’t want to see her again romantically, but it does more than that. It assumes that you and her are on the same page, making the breakup much less embarrassing and giving her a chance to agree with your assessment when she texts back, thus saving her face.

A little awkward to say but I didn’t want to be a ghost.

Some people hate ghosting after a date or two, others like it. Letting her into your thinking will foster feelings of respect.

You’re a great person and best of luck in this crazy world.

It’s never a bad idea to end on a compliment. Just because you two don’t work out doesn’t mean she isn’t an awesome person. You just don’t see you two being romantic. Wishing her the best of luck makes it clear as Anthony Davis’s unibrow that there’s no future between the two of you.

#5 Best Break Up Texts for Her

Boom.

This text message is surgical, direct, and unequivocal.

It follows a classic break up text pattern:

Greeting + reason for break up + classy goodbye = awesome break-up text.

You’re in, you’re out, you’re ready to MegaDate.

Can I Email Her Instead?

No.

Emails are ticking time bombs.

They wait in her inbox until she happens to find it.

The thing is, she might not find see your email for hours if not days.

Wouldn’t it be awkward to have sent the email only to receive a text from her an hour later asking if you want to go out tomorrow night?

90% of texts are viewed within 3 minutes, they’re brief, private, and are hands preferable to an email.

And don’t even think about hiring the people that wrote this email.

#6 For When You Already Made Plans

The best thing you can do is let her down before things spiral uncontrollably towards a serious relationship.

It’s easy to say in just an okay relationship — especially if you’re not MegaDating.

Just because you made plans doesn’t mean you can’t bow out. Doing so saves you and her time as you let it be known there’s no point in investing in something that doesn’t have a long-term future.

But back to MegaDating for a second.

MegaDating is a dating philosophy that informs the emlovz dating coaching program, Dating Decoded.

It involves dating multiple women at the same time.

Doing so has various benefits including:

Quickly finding a compatible partner
Helps avoid settling
Saves time in the long run
Builds confidence
Refines dating skills

If you’re going to go out with various women, you need to know when it’s time to move on and be willing to end things.

These texts give you a template to work with when writing a breakup text.

#7 For When COVID Gets In The Way… Or You Don’t Want To Hurt Her

COVID-19 has ended more relationships than has telling your partner your number too early in a relationship.

It’s a killer, makes everyone sick, and either accelerates or ends a relationship before it begins.

But there are some positives to COVID.

For one more pets than ever have been adopted during the pandemic, introverts always have an excuse not to go out, and you have a legit reason to end a relationship that you know isn’t going anywhere without hurting her.

The downside to this is that when the pandemic has died down she might hit you up. But who knows, but then she may already be dating someone who’s too nice to use the COVID excuse to break up with her.

#8 When Things Don’t Add Up

Sometimes you two just want different things.

You can’t make a square fit into a circular hole or someone who plans on moving to NYC to pursue an acting career focus on a more viable career path.

That’s cool, but it doesn’t mean you have to support them.

Get out of relationships with people that are moving in different directions before they try to bring you with them.

Best Breakup Texts #9 When You Want To Avoid Specifics

Look it’s only been a few dates.

You don’t have to tell her exactly why you don’t want to see her.

Maybe you have a personal issue that needs addressing — that’s totally fine.

You owe this person nothing.

You did well to message instead of ghost. Now it’s time to take a step back and work on yourself.

#10 When You Don’t Want Them Messaging Back

Perhaps you really did meet someone new.

Or maybe you just really don’t want them hitting you back up.

It’s difficult to get rid of clingers, but you’re doing the right thing.

It’s much better to break things off before things become unhealthy or dangerous — or just really annoying.

If you only went on 2-3 dates and didn’t say or do anything too romantic chances are she will understand and never message you again.

Mission accomplished.

#11 When Things Have Dragged On For Far Too Long

The longer you go out the harder it is to end things via text.

I mean you can always send one of these breakup texts, but chances are it’ll lead to a protracted conversation that you’ll regret in the long run.

To get away with texting a woman you’ve been seeing for a while now with a breakup text you’ll have to shower her with comments and elaborate on why you’re ending things.

If you’d like, even acknowledge that it feels weird texting her but that you feel more comfortable ending things this way.

No matter how much tact you use, odds are high she’ll want to talk via a phone call and ask that you expand on your reasoning for wanting to end things.

#12 When They Were Rude

You don’t have to hold back. If the person was an a**hole, tell them they were.

Try to use tact, but be blunt.

Someone needs to tell them off because chances are they either don’t know they were rude or are too apathetic to care. Either way you’re taking one for the team by calling them out.

Ideally, your comment will be the kick in the ass they need to change — probably not, but it’s worth a text.

You Just Sent One of These Breakup Texts, What Now?

Now you’re as free as a bird — one that’s single and ready to get their date on.

So what do you do?

Well, you can continue to meet the women you’ve been meeting, perfect your breakup skills and wind up forever alone, OR change tactics.

Changing tactics looks like MegaDating, making an awesome dating profile, MegaMessaging, and following the MegaDating blueprint for first, second, and their dates.

If you’re looking for a change, our dating program, Dating Decoded could be right for you.

To learn more let’s chat via a 1-on-1 Zoom conversation. During our talk I’ll learn about your romantic goals and I’ll determine if Dating Decoded is right for you.