Is going for a walk a date? No.
That’s it.
That’s the entire article.
Succinct for a change no?
Texting a woman, “hey wanna go for a walk sometime?” is not a date.
Now that that problem’s solved you can go on with whatever you were doing before this — swiping on Bumble, re-watching The Sopranos, or researching the new COVID variant.
Although I guess I’d be remiss if I didn’t help teach you the basics of asking a woman out.
Ya see, the actual act of going on a walk could definitely be a date.
However, the activity itself isn’t what determines whether it’s a date or not.
What makes a date a date is the label.
Let me explain.
Is Going For A Walk A Date?
It depends on how you ask. Let’s get into it.
Use A TDL
TDL stands for time, date, location.
It’s what every prospering single man needs to use when asking a woman on a date.
A TDL is the opposite of what most men do.
Here’s an example of what most men say…
Most Common Ways Guys Ask Women Out
You may think that a TDL isn’t necessary.
That the way you’ve been going about things is good enough.
Let’s take apart what “good enough” looks like and why you should never ask a woman out using one of these lines ever again.
“We should hang sometime.”
I’m not going to lie.
The “yes” success rate for a line like this might be greater than a TDL.
The difference is that when a woman says yes to this date request she’s agreeing to an amorphous date. She may be agreeing because either she wants to see you or doesn’t want there to be a conflict. Either way you still have to ask her out yet again in order to see her in person.
“I’m going for a beer, want to join?”
This sounds like you were going anyways and that she was the afterthought.
The woman you’re trying to court doesn’t want to be an afterthought, and let’s be honest she isn’t. This is a lazy PUA neg that will get rejected more often than it will work.
“Let’s go out, we’ll figure out the details later”
Women are slippery.
Not because they want to be. Moreso it’s because most guys trying catching women with wet hands.
It’s on you if you let the flame fizzle out while it’s still getting started.
Lock her down to an engagement as soon as possible. Do so by asking her on a concrete date.
Is A TDL Guaranteed To Get You A Date?
If only it were that easy.
A TDL is nothing more than the best possible tactic you can use to score a first date.
However, there are plenty of ways to improve your odds of having your TDL accepted.
You can improve your roster of Tinder photos, become a smooth talker online, and by becoming a savvier swiper.
Rejection is the only guarantee.
So what will you do when you’re inevitably rejected?
You MegaDate
MegaDating is nothing more than dating multiple women at the same time.
It’s easy to take rejection in stride when you’ve got two dates around the corner. There’s simply no time to feel down and wallow in pain when you have a date on the horizon.
I urge all my clients to MegaDate not only because it fine-tunes their dating skills, but because it’s the quickest possible way to find a partner that’s right for you.
There are three major benefits to MegaDating.
1) It reduced anxiety. The best way to overcome anxiety is by constantly exposing yourself to the stimulus that’s producing this anxiety. The more you date the less anxious you’ll be not only around women but people in general.
2) It reduces your need to settle. It can be easy to want to marry the first woman that you’ve dated in years. You feel that Cupid has finally sympathized with you and sniped you with an arrow. But in reality, you only feel this way because you doubt that you’ll be able to date anyone else. Dating around reduces the need to cling to the first woman that smiles at you.
3) It helps you find the woman that’s right for you. Chances are if you’re in a major city, there are at least 50 thousand single women that you could realistically see yourself dating. To find the right one, you’ll need to date around. MD exposes you to a myriad of women. This exposure will help you understand which type of woman you’re most compatible with.
Time To Ask Her Out
Remember…
— Use a TDL
— Make it compelling
— Be explicit with your intentions by using the D-word
Follow these three steps and you’re dating life will see a monumental shift.
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