A lot of men I’ve spoken with have inspired me to write this article on how to know if she’s the one. In fact, this type of question encompasses many individuals’ experience in the dating world because, ultimately, that’s what we hope to find.

But figuring out whether someone is the one isn’t so simple. A lot of time, the infatuation that accompanies the “honeymoon phase” of a relationship can make you believe someone is the one when they actually aren’t compatible with you. Other times, our dating habits can make us want to believe someone is the one even when a lot of red flags pop up during the dating process.

Only you can truly decide if someone is the one for you, but there are also a lot of signs that can guide you in making that decision soundly. Take a look below at seven signs on how to know if she’s the one.

How to Know if She’s the One 

Sign #1: You’ve Gained A-Lot of Experience

Sure, there are those couples who met in high school or were each other’s college sweetheart, got married and are enjoying a fulfilling relationship today. But these couples are the exception, not the rule.

For the most part, people need to date a variety of different people to understand what they truly want out of a relationship. From there, they can assess if a woman is truly the one.

On average, you want to make sure you’ve dated at least 5 different women by the age of 25, and at least 15-20 by the age of 35. This doesn’t mean you have to be in super long-term relationships with 20 women, but you should have had at least a handful of dates or a decent amount of short-term relationships with a variety of different women.

If this sounds like a great feat, it doesn’t have to be.

To gain more experience in the dating world and truly know if someone is the one, try MegaDating. MegaDating is the top strategy I recommend to all of my male clients looking for find the girl of their dreams.

This dating process involves going out on dates with several different people at the same time in order to diffuse energy and keep your social calendar full.

When you’re not in an exclusive relationship and choose to only go out with one woman at a time, you set yourself up for failure. It can be very easy to get hung up on the idea of “the one,” get infatuated with that one person you’re non-exclusively hanging out with (since they’re the only option you see) and settle for the mediocre.

With MegaDating, you are constantly evolving in the dating world and building confidence because you end up getting a ton of practice. You also avoid dating pitfalls like chasing after women or meandering into stage 5 clinger territory. This is because you have several different options when it comes to women.

Why get hung up on a walking red flag or someone who rejected you when you have a few other interesting women to hang out with? That is the beauty of MegaDating.

Sign #2: She Wants to Spend a Majority of Her Free Time with You

Unless this woman is super codependent or has literally nothing else to do (in which case, you should probably be concerned), the fact that she wants to spend a majority of her free time with you is a good sign.

When you fall in love with someone, especially someone who is the one, you can’t get enough of them. They’re not just your romantic partner, but a best friend. That means that there’s no place you’d rather be than with them. If you have something exciting planned, you want them to be a part of it.

Sign #3: She Doesn’t Ask for Anything in Return

How to know if she’s the one? She doesn’t ask for money or anything in return — she just wants to be around you.

This is one of the most important things to remember when it comes to realizing if someone is right for you. A good relationship doesn’t come with a price tag.

If a woman is constantly asking for money or other material items, criticizing you, or trying to change you, she is not the one. They say that “love hurts,” but in actuality, a genuine and healthy kind of love is not going to drain you emotionally. You shouldn’t feel like bad times outweigh the happy times when a woman is right for you.

Some women are going to try to position themselves in a way that will make them seem desirable to you (and other guys) when they really just want something. If a person is extremely manipulative (i.e., is she is a sociopath or a narcissist), they may be really good at convincing you that they are “the one,” when really they are someone you should steer clear of at all costs.

Remember to pay attention to your gut feelings about someone and take inventory of any red flags while dating.

Sign #4: She Isn’t on a Timeline

When you’re with the right person, you’re more fixated on enjoying your time with them than making sure everything is “on schedule” with what you think constitutes an appropriate dating plan. Dating should feel easy and a relationship evolves naturally when it’s right.

If you notice a woman is anxious about meeting a certain “timeline” when it comes to your relationship, that’s a red flag. For example:

• She basically REQUIRES exclusivity after three months, because that is what she thinks is the “right” time to put a label on things.

• She wants to establish seriousness, moving in together and certain big relationship steps within a year.

• She has a deadline of being engaged within two years of dating, married within three years and so on…

These numbers don’t have to be exact but the point is that certain people have very rigid deadlines for completing relationship milestones. Obviously, some women who hope to have children will get anxious during times that they feel their “biological window” to have kids is closing.

However, if someone is rushing a relationship, set on certain milestones in relationships, and/or pressuring you to align with them on those things, that’s not a good sign. These people may be more concerned with the idea of a relationship than the actual relationship itself.

Sign #5: You’ve Vacationed With Her and it Was Easy

This. Is. A. BIG. Test.

If you can go away on vacation with someone (I’m talking, like, five days or more) and there were no hiccups, she may very well be the one.

It’s one thing to go on dates with someone and enjoy their company. It’s an entirely different thing to share a bathroom and spend 24/7 with someone for several days and not want to hurl yourself through a window by the end of it.

In all seriousness, being able to enjoy an extended period of uninterrupted US time is a great indicator for your future. Remember, the girl who you decide is “the one” is the same girl you’re presumably going to share a home and (hopefully) a lifetime with. Make sure it’s someone you can stand to be in the same room with for significant periods of time.

Sign #6: She Introduces You to Her Friends

A girl that is the one is going to be proactive about introducing you to her friends.

Normally, a girl should want to introduce you to her friends within one-to-two months of dating. She should want to introduce you to her family within three-to-six months of dating.

It’s important to be able to get to know the people in your girlfriend’s life because, if you guys are going to have a future, these people will become entwined in your personal and social life as well. And if you get married, her family will then become an extension of your family, and vice versa.

Conversely, if she tries to push her friends and family on you within a couple weeks or brings her mom and dad to your second or third date, that is a VERY BAD sign.

Sign #7: You Don’t Want to See Other Women

You’ve done the relationship thing. You’ve used MegaDating as a way to overcome your dating barriers and reach your goals faster. Now that you’ve been seeing this certain woman for a while, you find yourself uninterested in seeing anyone else.

In fact, you don’t even really notice other women when it comes to romance. You can recognize when a girl is attractive, but you only have eyes for the current woman you’re dating. You can’t remember the last time you checked your dating apps and would like to delete them.

If you’re feeling this way, the woman you’re dating could be the one. Some people out there who are in unfulfilling relationships try to rationalize things like infidelity or a wandering eye because the person they are with is probably not the person they should be with.

Every relationship is going to come with challenges. The difference between a right relationship and a wrong relationship is that — when it’s right — there’s not going to be a challenge that would lead you to someone else or cause your eye to wander.

Sign #8: She Doesn’t Pull You Away From Your Hobbies or Friends

This is really important.

You don’t want to be with someone who tries to take you away from friends or the things that you’re passionate about. This can be a sign that someone is possessive and controlling, which are two ingredients for an extremely unhealthy relationship.

When a girl is the one, she’s going to want to support you in your hobbies and also get to know your friends. This is because what is important to you should ultimately be important to her as well and vice versa.

How to Know if She’s the One: Get More Answers

Whether it’s how to know if she’s the one or another issue you’re experiencing in the dating world, I’m here to help. During my 100-date experiment, I gained a wealth of knowledge about the intricacies that come with modern dating. I have been putting this knowledge to use ever since by helping men find satisfying, long-term relationships. I would like to do the same for you!

If you’re ready to get started, head over to my calendar and book a new client Zoom session with me or one of my colleagues today! During our session, we will discuss your dating goals and create an individualized action plan to help you find success. At the end of the session we’ll determine if our coaching or matchmaking services are right for you!